When the Money Isn’t Worth It

First things first, check out this new updo that is the current front-runner for Saturday’s wedding look:

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I am in love.

I think it’s romantic and classy and might even work with super-thin hair like mine. The wondrous Martha Stewart even posted a tutorial about how to do the ‘do yourself… though I think I’ll leave it to a professional. We’ll see! My updo selection will likely be a game-day decision.

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Lunchtime!

Lunch today will likely look familiar…

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Leftovers from last night’s dinner.

Why only a tiny serving of beans you may ask? I spilled the Tupperware containing the beans as I was plating my meal and that pathetic little spoonful was all I could salvage.

Normally I’m a big proponent of the five-second rule, but with mice running around our apartment like it’s some kind of a carnival, I’m not about to eat fallen beanies.

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And now I’d like to talk about jobs and money. Oh, baby.

About a week ago, I was talking with a very close friend of mine who is incredibly unhappy in her job. She’s extremely overworked, stressed out and dreads going into the office every single day. Speaking with her made me want to cry for her and brought back memories of an awful time in my life where I felt like my job ruled my life and the stress was unbearable. I figured that since both my friend and I experienced such similar experiences, others may have been there (or may be there) as well.

When the Money Isn’t Worth It

People measure success in varying ways. Happiness. Money. Good friends. Close family. A top position at work.

One of the things that stuck out to me about Ryan when we first started dating was that he always made me his first priority. I never doubted how much he cared for me, and coming from a previous relationship where I never really knew how much I meant to someone until after we broke up, his affectionate ways and loving demeanor were extremely attractive to me. He made me feel like my happiness = his happiness.

As we continued dating, I learned more about his hopes and dreams for the future and his desire to do well in the business world. But the one goal he always said first? “Be happy.”

I used to simply smile at this remark and think to myself, “Well, duh.”

As the years passed, I realized that this goal is perhaps the most difficult goal to achieve. It takes effort, will power, dedication, strength and constant evaluation of your attitude and surroundings.

When Ryan and I discuss what exactly happiness means to us, we agree that having a loving family and a warm, safe and comforting home life are the key to our personal happiness. A job that is rewarding and makes us feel integral, excited and passionate is also important.

Job and financial success are a tricky one for me.

I was raised in a house that was very, very aware of finances. My sister and I would get in serious trouble if we left a room and left the light on. 

This turned me into a serious saver and was a major reason behind my decision to change majors in college to pursue a career I thought might be more lucrative.

My first job out of college paid very little. I was happy in my job, but after a year I got restless and applied for jobs that paid more.

I was offered a position as a marketing manager and it came with more responsibility and significantly more pay.

And more stress.

The intense stress I felt in my job as a marketing manager was so unexpected and so daunting. I had no work-life balance and worked late into the evenings on week days, worked weekends and thought about work non-stop.

When I would arrive home from work, I wouldn’t want Ryan to ask me about my day because I didn’t even want to talk about work. On Sunday mornings I awoke feeling depressed and absolutely dreaded Monday mornings. I remember crying to Ryan saying that I was wishing away five days of my life every week.

The money simply wasn’t worth it.

In the little spare time I had, I began applying for new jobs.

When I received an interview for a writing and editing position with a large website, I felt excited and relieved. And then I learned about the pay. It paid $10,000 less than the position I currently held.

I was so miserable in my current job, but could I really forgo $10,000? Was $10,000 worth having no personal life and feeling such extreme stress and anxiety? Absolutely not.

I cried and worried and freaked out many times before finally accepting the new position and leaving my job as a marketing manager.

From my first day at my writing and editing job, I never looked back. Not once did I think I made a mistake. Did I miss the extra money in my paycheck? Sure. But it was so incredibly worth it.

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Two years out of college I learned that the old saying “money doesn’t buy happiness” really is true. I learned early on that I would rather make less money than make a ton of money if the extra money meant countless hours at the office, unyielding pressure, no time with those I love and intense stress.

Yes, money is important. It’s perfectly okay to have the desire to make money, be ambitious and have financially-driven goals. But I never want to forget the most important things in the world. My family. My friends. Personal peace and happiness.

Many jobs are hard at times and easier at others, but unrelenting jobs that provide no reprieve from stress and pressure are draining. My job as a marketing manager took more away from me than just my time. It took away me.

Sometimes it’s okay to take a risk. It’s okay to walk away. It’s okay to care more about yourself than your paycheck.

Questions of the Day

  • Have you ever been in a job where you were truly miserable?
  • Would you have a hard time taking a dramatic pay cut to accept a position you felt would be a better fit for you emotionally?

Comments

  1. says

    I worked for a magazine straight out of college, and I absolutely loathed it. I was miserable and, like you, felt like I was wishing away 5 days a week – just looking forward to the weekend. I ended up quitting and taking a volunteer position. Of course, I was lucky to have a husband that could support me. Now I work for a different nonprofit (paid position) and am extremely happy. While I know that money does not equal happiness, some people are literally stuck in their job because they don’t have a family/husband/spouse/significant other that they can rely on financially. It’s such a sticky situation – especially with the economy/job market the way it is now. Some people don’t have a choice to be picky – ya know?!

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    • says

      i know and that is what is so sad. i was only supporting myself, so my decision didn’t affect anyone else. i can’t imagine the stress of having a family to support and going through an awful job at the same time. my heart truly goes out to people in that situation.

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    • says

      I always, always, always wanted to work for a magazine. Then in college I started a journalism major and interned at newspapers and magazines and HATED IT. I took a lower paying part time job out of college rather than throw myself into that environment because I knew it would make me miserable. It took a couple years to find a good job that paid well and I loved but I’m doing okay now and have a much better quality of life.

      I would say money is never worth having a horrible quality of life!

      Great post!

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  2. says

    I had a job in radio advertising sales that made me miserable! Sales is not something I excel in because I hate feeling pushy and asking for money. Finally I followed my passion into the health field and am loving continuing down this path as a business owner and blogger while I continue to discover what makes me happy. I agree- happiness >money!

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    • says

      i know what you mean about sales. my marketing manager job had me selling A LOT. it felt pushy and unnatural. i hate asking people for things in my personal life, so it was just an awful fit for me.

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  3. says

    I LOVED this post. So much of it rang so true to me – and are things that I say all the time. All the money in the world is not worth being unhappy. We are at our jobs (for the most part) more than we are anywhere else so it’s SO important to be happy doing what you’re doing.

    I admire you making the choice you did – it’s not an easy thing to do. I definitely grew up in the same type of household so it makes you feel pressure to be SURE you’re financially stable so you won’t have to worry.

    But sometimes, a little worry is completely worth it for total happiness. And I’m a strong believer that EVERYTHING works out so long as you’re dedicated to making it! 🙂

    Glad you’ve found your happiness!

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  4. says

    LOVE this post. Love love love. It is just what I needed to hear at a time when I’m going into a job that’s putting my happiness WAY above $$$ (Haha you might know what I mean!). I’m so nervous, but your post is super-reassuring. Thanks for unknowingly writing exactly what I needed to hear right now! You are awesome, Julie :).

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  5. says

    Great post Julie and so very true. I’ve been with the same company since graduating college 7 years ago. I’ve been promoted more times than I can count off hand right now and my salary has more than tripled since my entry level pay. However, my happiness has not tripled. In fact, I’d gladily go back to the time when I was making about $20K less than I am now b/c in retropect I was the happiest then. My work and personal lives were in sync. I had a great boss that was motivating and empowering and life was good. Do I like the extra $20K in my paycheck? Of course. But, it’s not always about $. People think $ is a motivator. I disagree, it’s a definite de-motivator when it’s not there, but it is not a motivator in and of itself.

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    • says

      i agree! in my last job, they used $$$ and bonuses as a motivator when, as a writer, i really would’ve been more motivated by praise and a “good job” here and there. bonuses in the writing field felt foreign and unnatural.

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  6. says

    Yes! I am so glad you posted this entry, because I am currently dealing with this now. I am on the job hunt, and am finding that i will probably have to make less right off the bat, but I feel that I will really be making more – happiness is a virtue, right? I would love to be happy in my job again. A few lifestyle changes will have to be made, but I believe in the end, less is absolutely more 🙂

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  7. says

    I love this up do!! I think it will look soo pretty. I like styles that aren’t super structured and more loosely put together…it always looks way more natural 🙂 Thanks for posting your thoughts on jobs and money…you sound like you are actually pretty lucky that you learned this lesson so soon after college. Some people go their whole lives never understanding that money isn’t everything and missing out on a whole lot of life 🙂

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  8. says

    Thank you for this post. THANK YOU THANK YOU. I am in the design field and love to design for print media. I am still finishing up school but am fully aware that it is a vanishing field since most everything is going digital. I know that I could probably make more money if I focused my studies on web design but I just loath the idea of doing that for a living. I grew up in a very financially blessed home and long to be able to afford the things my parents could, but I don’t think that’s worth doing something I hate. This post really reassured me that I’m on the right path for ME.

    Thanks again!

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  9. says

    Great post, Julie. I absolutely feel the same way. I left a lucrative job right out of college because I was doing the same thing — wishing away 5 days of my life every week and dreading work every single day — so I went and worked FOR FREE at an internship for five months. As it turned out, I was 1000x happier working for free in a job that I loved than making more money than I had ever seen in my life.

    Thanks for writing about this! 🙂

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      • says

        Awesome! Let me know if she has any questions about taking an unpaid internship…It’s scary, and certainly not easy, but if it’s something you love, it is SO SO SO worth it in the long run. Plus, future employers really admire the fact that you were willing to give up so much for your career…I’ve had so many people tell me how impressed they were that I knew what I wanted to do and went for it.

        Plus, life is too short to do what you hate. Duh! 🙂

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  10. says

    This post means so much to me and has made me start thinking a lot – and not about my job, but my boyfriend’s. I have a lot of the same viewpoints as you – I NEED the work/life balance to make myself. I want to have time to workout after work, hang with friends, cook dinner, watch a movie, etc.

    My boyfriend is a first-year investment banker and workers 85-95 hours a week. It stresses him out and whenever he’s not in work, he’s talking about it. We both live in Atlanta (I only moved here 8 months ago) and he is now looking for another finance job in New York. Well… where does that leave me? It’s difficult to swallow, but our ideas of ‘happiness’ may not be the same….

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      • says

        honestly, that reminds me of my dad. he works CRAZY hours and is always, always stressed by work. he is such a wonderful man and father, but i constantly wish work didn’t play such a large part in his life and personal happiness. it’s so hard for many people to see that. i bet having you in his life helps him more than you can imagine.

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    • Mel says

      I have a guy in a similar situation, where he’s always working or studying. Sometimes I think it’s some men’s competitive mentality to feel they need to support a family, be on top, make the most, etc. I think you can have differing values as long as his attention is channeled in other directions too (or that he shows you are impt). You’re definitely lucky, Julie, to have a balanced and supportive partner!

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  11. says

    I’m glad you posted this. I am currently in a similar situation and haven been searching for a new job for the last two weeks. I know i’m lucky to have any job right now – but like you said, no job is worth your happiness.

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  12. says

    Please keep me posted if that updo works with thin hair (I have thin hair as well, grrr) always looking for new ways to do something with it!

    I had a high paying job at one point but it involved major travel and was a problem with my then boyfriend (now husband) and he encouraged me to switch jobs and take a paycut. I did and ended up scoring an amazing job where I learned a million things and it really opened up a whole new world. Sure, at first I missed the money – but in the end it was one of the best decisions I ever made…then soon after I got engaged and married!

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  13. says

    I’m with you on this one, Julie. I, too, quit a job that I hated more than I can describe. Like you, I stayed up as late as I could every night, because I knew the sooner I went to sleep, the sooner I’d have to wake up and go to work. I was absolutely miserable, they treated me really poorly, and although it paid well, I just couldn’t justify staying. While working there I applied for and got a job that paid $20,000 less, but I accepted it and never looked back. I’m SO much happier here even though I’m actually working longer hours. But coming in to an office of nice people, versus my other devil boss is totally worth the pay cut and extra hours. HAPPINESS is SO important!!!

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  14. says

    I love that you can tell that this post came straight out of your heart! It really made me stop and reflect on things. I’ve found myself before making career decisions that were driven more from financial gain than personal happiness, but thankfully I never landed myself in a position where I was truly miserable. Whenever considering money, I always remind myself that I have friends that make significantly less and significantly more than I do and they all seem incredibly happy. Happiness definitely doesn’t have to depend on what figure is in your bank account!

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  15. says

    I have this debate with my parents ALL the time. I have a great job that pays well and has a lot of growth opportunity, I’m just still not sure if it’s my passion. I’m in school to become a certified health coach and the idea that I would leave this job for something less stable and lucrative is CRAZY to my parents. I’m just not willing to be unhappy!

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    • says

      i think it’s a generational thing. i had to literally ball my eyes out to my father to make him understand how truly miserable i was. it was only after that experience where he really understood that taking a $10k paycut was the best thing i could do for myself.

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      • says

        Oh it totally is. And I’ve explained that to them (after taking a course called “Generations in the Workforce”. And when it came down to it they would support me as long as I was still able to support myself and was happy.

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  16. says

    Julie, what a wonderful post! I can relate to no end. I took a job that was literally DOUBLE my old pay despite gut feeling that it was all wrong for me. I took it instead (hindsight is 20/20). I spent every single evening crying my eyes out and every weekend stressed over work . I didn’t even notice the extra money – it didn’t make me happy at all. The day I quit that miserable job, was the day I got my life back. I had no other job lined up and didn’t know when I’d receive another paycheck, but I was on Cloud Nine. What a great lesson to learn early on in life!

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  17. says

    I LOVE this hairstyle and hope it works for your hair! I like this one the best out of all the pictures you posted! Great post 🙂 I’m so happy at my current teaching job. I LOVE IT 🙂

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  18. says

    What a topic!

    Yes I was in a job that I was pretty unhappy with for a number of reasons and I left it even though there was some guilt or self-inflicted pressure that I should have stayed for longer than 2 years. Now i work in a job that I’m definitely happiER in, but still not super happy.

    I’d have a hard time taking a huge cut because our cost of living is so very high in California, but I could probably do up to a $50K per year *cut* if I was blissfully happy!

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  19. says

    I love this post…I’m going to graduate from college next year and I really hope I don’t let myself get sucked into the same trap. Thinking about the future is a constant tug of war…Of course my emotional well-being should come first, but I think I’d eagerly snap up ANY job “in this economy”. It seems like too much to ask to find a job that excites me, suits my lifestyle, AND provides an equal amount of nonmonetary motivators (a good boss, praise where it’s due, etc.) and monetary incentives (a regular paycheck, a potential for bonuses and promotions, etc.) right off of the bat. Do you think it’s a bad idea to “settle” for a first job? Like you did, I could always continue the hunt for a dream job once I found a job that will pay for my rent and my raspberries!

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    • says

      to be 100% honest, i don’t think it’s bad to “settle” for a first job. i remember a teacher telling me “the point of your first job is to get you your SECOND job.” at that point you can be choosier. 🙂 apparently it stuck with me!

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  20. says

    Boy I can definitely relate to this post. I have worked so many jobs (personal trainer, group ex instructor, line cook, medical secretary, coach, gym manager) and I loved some and hated others. Some of them took over my life as well.

    I have made the change to blogging because it’s simply a better fit for me in so many ways and I LOVE it. Money can’t buy happiness and it doesn’t matter how much you save and work for retirement – because who knows whether you’ll live to enjoy it! I know that sounds pessimistic but its what happened to my dad – 30+ years in a government job he didn’t really like and then 2 years into his retirement he was diagnosed with colon cancer.

    DO WHAT YOU LOVE! 🙂

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  21. says

    This post is exactly what I needed to hear today. My husband took a position in January that instantly changed our family dynamic. This position put him on the road two full weeks at a time, only coming home every other weekend. It made both of us miserable, we fought all the time and were very unhappy. This unhappiness also effected my job as well. After months and months of being told the travel would get better, it never did and we made the difficult decision to quit. My husband was making good money and taking away his income was quite a scary prospect for us. He’s been home three weeks now and has had a handful of interviews and filled out dozens and dozens of applications, but no job just yet. I know that this is a step we had to take to have a healthy marriage and work life balance but the thought of him not finding a job soon really scares me financially. I’m a planner by nature, and it’s hard to just sit back and let God work this one out for us. Patience is not my virtue. 🙂

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  22. says

    Your post is so timely, Julie! This very thing is what I’m struggling with right now. I feel like I’ve figured out that my passions lie in writing, nutrition, and food, and that I want to go back to school, or go to culinary school, or figure out SOMETHING else than to continue to work in a job that I don’t enjoy, and that makes me pretty miserable. But… it’s hard to make that leap of faith. Money is a big deal, whether we’re willing to admit it or not, and I’m just finding it very, very hard to pull the trigger.

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  23. Holly @ The Runny Egg says

    Yes — I am working in a job that is not paying the most but I am happy here — I have been in a few miserable jobs (working conditions, managers, etc) and the money is not worth it.

    Jason was recently laid off (ok 3 months ago) and in a way it was a blessing because that job literally sucked the life out of him each and every day.

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  24. Laura @ southern girl bakes says

    I’m so happy you posted this. I’m not in the same exact position, but I’ve had to evaluate my job. I think I could definitely take a pay cut right now – when I don’t have a family or house to pay for – if the job would make me happier.

    I just resigned from my first full-time job, which I love, but it pays little, there’s no room for growth, and I’m not challenged as much. I’m moving on to something in a related industry. It’s not full-time, and I have no idea if it will make me happier, but I think in the long-run, giving up some pay and getting new challenges will help my happiness.

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  25. Amelia says

    You write so well Julie! Thanks for sharing your heart felt thoughts with us. My story is long so I’ll give you the condenced/abridged version. Working in different field last year, going to grad school part time, finished grad school, found dream job in new field, applied and interviewed for it, offered and accepted dream job! I have been here a year and slowly have come to not enjoy it. Lots of stress, high pressure work environment, not flexible at all. All the excitement that I had for it initially has worn off. The honeymoon is over! Seriously thinking about my health/fitness/wellness/food passion and where that could fit in to a career change. You give me inspiration, Julie!

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  26. says

    I have definitely learned that money doesn’t buy happiness. After watching my parents get divorced- I’ve realized that I would much rather have a happy life and be in a loving relationship than I would a bunch of money. I originally went to school with the idea of eventually going on to med school- but I mainly wanted to do it because of the great pay. Once I got out of that mind set, I found occupational therapy and while the pay will be much much less, it is something that I absolutely love! I can’t wait til I graduate grad school and and am able to start working 🙂

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  27. Brie says

    Love this post! I too grew up in a household that was very aware of finances. At the time I resented it, bug its made me into the savy money saver that I am now. 😉
    You’re right, money isn’t everything, and most studies show that the more money one makes, the more money they just spend. Most people that get raises don’t start saving more money, they just spend it. So in my opinion, you can easily live on “less” and still be happy, heck probably happier! (As long as your basic needs are able to be met).

    I’m a nurse so my base pay is pretty standard, but two years ago I was working fulltime in a hospital which was two twelve hour day shifts followed by two twelve hour night shifts, then four days off. It worked out so that I basically would works all the weekends every second month, so half the weekends of the year! It was brutal because my fiance (then boyfriend) had a mon thru fri job. I felt like I was missing out on so many things …the money was great because of night pay and overtime, but so what? So two years ago i applied for a community day nurse position and got it! It’s only four days a week, so that combined with no shift differentials and absolutely no overtime allowed in the community has made for a lot smaller pay checks. But I’m happy! And you know what, I actually save more money without evening noticing a change in my lifestyle. I’m just even more smarter with my money now 🙂

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    • Lauren says

      aaahh i am glad to see a nurse respond to this! i am in nursing school right now as my second degree and every day i stress over whether or not i’m going to be able to maintain a good quality life once i start working (if i get a job!) i’ve already considered dropping the program because of the stress and feeling like it may not be worth it but i keep trying to push through hoping that it will all be worth it! i hope i can find a job where it may not be as much pay but i’d at least have a normal schedule and be less stressed because no amount of money is worth lack of sleep/long stressful shifts. sorry to rant it’s just been on my mind – a lot! 🙂

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  28. Courtney @ girl in the pink says

    I can totally relate to this post. I had a love/hate relationship with my old job and my husband hated his – but we made a good living, had good benefits, vacation, etc… So it was tempting to stay with our jobs.

    After we got married we decided to take a big risk- we quit our jobs, moved to a different state so my husband could do a three month internship in a new career field. He loved his internship, but after it was over it was hard to find work. After 6 months of searching he landed an awesome job and now I am enrolling in grad school to start a new career as well!

    We definitely felt uncomfortable and scared at times, but taking risks and following our passions is starting to pay off for us in a big way!! 🙂

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  29. says

    um YES! I agree, money is obviously a need to have in this world, but the obesession with it is craziness! Happiness is not bought, ever.

    I am totally okay with doing risky things if it makes me happy, and my husband feels the same way, thankfully! I have worked a job that offered great potential and I hated every minute of it. Doing something I love, life is SO much better!

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  30. says

    This post is spot on to what I have experienced. My husband and I met when I was in school in Canada and we got engaged and decided that because he was already set in the career world (7 years in his field) that it would make the most sense for him to find a job and we would move where he could find one in the states. Well after months of looking he finally found a job in my home state (not where I wanted to return but oh well) and then it was time for me to find a job. I started to feel a lot of financial pressure to find something good and quick and settled on a job in insurance… a job so far from my dream job. I stayed in the position for 1.5 years and it was the most miserable time of my (our) life. I finally made the decision (with the support of my husband) to leave the postion with no job lined up. I was scared of the financial impact but we both agreed that i was miserable and it was effecting my health, happiness and our relationship. So I left. It took me 3 months to find a new job but during that time I decided to focus on my blog and came to realize my real passion was health and nutrition and helping other reach their health goals. This is when I started at the Institute For Integrative Nutrition to become a health coach and then I finally found a paying part time job in a new location (no more commuting) and my life changed completely. I feel so much happier, more positive and more in love then ever. For me being happy is worth more than money. Sorry for the ridiculously long comment haha but you just inspired me. Love this post!

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  31. says

    I went to University for 8.5 years (I did 2 degrees). About 3/4 through my first degree I realized that I didn’t want a job in that field and finished it, and went straight into nursing. For my husband and I, it meant another 4 years of financial burden, sacrifice and hard work. There were definitely months when we didn’t know where grocery money was going to come from, but in the end it was all worth it.

    Although I am mat leave now, I have a job that I LOVE to go to. I wake up in the morning excited to go in and see what kind of day I am going to have. I feel rewarded, fulfilled, humbled and happy in my job, and for once, I feel like I am really good at something.

    My mom once gave me the advice that sometimes you just have to tighten your belt and take a leap of faith, and it is absolutely true!

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  32. says

    Great questions! I have (fortunately) never had a job that made me truly miserable. As a school psychologist, there are parts of my job that I love and parts that I don’t like as much. And at each district I’ve worked in, there are pros and cons to working in that particular district. But I’ve never been seriously miserable for an extended period of time.

    And I really believe that your peace and happiness is worth more than money. Yes, you need to pay your bills. But beyond that, you can live without certain luxuries for the sake of your peace of mind. But that’s just my opinion. 🙂

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  33. says

    Such a great post! It really is true, money certainly doesn’t buy happiness. I can totally relate to your feelings of dread come Sunday, crying to your significant other over not wanting to go to work, feeling completely drained after work, etc. I unfortunately am in a similar situation, and the money isn’t even that good!! I am, however, working hard to change that (by being back in school), and trying to keep everything in perspective.

    I can definitely say that your blog, especially with your decision to quit your job and pursue what you love to do full time and passionately has definitely inspired me and reminded me that anything is possible, and with a little persistence, hard work, dedication, faith, and most importantly good attitude, almost anything is possible!

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  34. says

    Great and interesting blog today, Julie!

    I’ve been in an absolutely miserable job before. Thankfully, it wasn’t a career job, as it was just a job to fill my time and help me pay bills in my year off between undergrad and grad school. But I did end up quitting earlier than expected because I simply could not take the abuse anymore. Being truly unhappy at work is awful.

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  35. says

    I honestly would rather the happiness. I feel like the extra money (that goes toward what… clothes? food splurges?) can be done without.. especially since a stressful job is usually the cause for NEEDING such splurges. right? 😉

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  36. says

    I have had a job where I was miserable. I lasted 1.5 months and quit. I would sit in the car and cry before walking into the building and I would cry the entire way home. Everyday.

    I probably would NOT take a pay cut unless I was truly miserable. I’m not on the most interesting project at work right now, but the company, and the people, and the managers are good. I have bills to pay and honestly…I want to retire or have enough money to do something I love later on. Making more is saving more, so I get that much closer to not working at all.

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  37. says

    Oh my goodness Julie, I needed to read this!! I’m a fairly recent grad, and I won’t go into too much detail about this (because you never know who reads the comments!) but to be very very brief, I can totally relate, and THANK YOU!

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  38. Kyra says

    I can definitely relate to this post. Right now I’m working at unpaid internship for the summer that I hate, but luckily i only have one month left. I’ll be entering my 3rd year of law school in August and this is something i worry about a lot. Lawyers are notorious for not having work/life balance, but I’m really doing a lot of research and hoping I can find a job I find intellectually satisfying but doesn’t take up my entire life. This post and your recent career change are both very encouraging!

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  39. says

    Julie,

    This is such a wonderful post–thank you so much for writing about this! I’m actually struggling with something like this right now with my summer internship. I am so appreciative to have this opportunity, but I just don’t enjoy going to the office everday–it’s not challenging me in ways that I yearn to be challenged. It’s also hard because I’m so busy that I haven’t had time to devote to other things I’m truly passionate about; cooking, exercising, spending time with friends, and being with family.

    Your post has really put things in perspective for me and I thank you so much for that! 🙂

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  40. says

    Insightful post! I am in the process of quitting my job and going back to school!

    It is quite stressful…because I am going from a prestigious job….to a student. However, I do plan to work part time as a personal trainer and fitness instructor!

    Hapiness is my mantra!

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  41. says

    I’m in that situation now. HATE my job. Too much work, too many unhappy clients, too many melodramatic coworkers. Salary is decent, but when I adjust it for the misery factor I should be making about 10 times as much.

    I have looked, and I’ve definitely considered taking a lower salary for the right job. Unfortunately, the job market is really in ruins, and good jobs at any salary are few and far between.

    I know what I want my next job to be, but it is going to take a little maneuvering to get there. So in the meantime, I have decided to stick with the sucky job…but find a way to make it less sucky. I have asked to be able to work remotely for a few months — I am waiting for the final OK, but it looks like it will be approved. For me, this is an EXCELLENT upgrade — I don’t have to look at miserable coworkers every day, won’t have to deal with a stressful commute, won’t be interrupted a million times during lunch. And I get to squirrel away a little more of my decent salary, giving me the freedom to take a lower paying job down the road.

    Just thought I’d mention it because this strategy could work for others, too — maybe you’d like to work from home 2x a week, or work 10 hour days M-Thu and take Fridays off. Or maybe you’d like to take some classes at night and need a little bit more of a flexible schedule. It is expensive for companies to replace an employee, so if you can make a compelling argument, you might be able to improve your situation.

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  42. Nicolette says

    Thank you so much for posting this! I am going to be graduating from undergrad in the fall, and afer working desk jobs in the summers I know that it is NOT for me. I need more freedom in my job and way more creativity. My ambition is to complete my master’s and hopefully put myself in a position where I can pick a job I truly want, instead of having to take what is handed to me. Wishful thinking, I know, but I am going to keep hoping.

    THANK YOU!

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  43. says

    I’m so glad you posted this. I was raised to never work just for the money. One should be happy and you’re right, happiness is measured a variety of ways. Yes, most of us would agree money makes a big difference..particularly in this economy, but I think most of us would also agree that there are so many more aspects of a job that make us happy. My coworkers make or break me in a job. If I don’t like who I work with and for, then it doesn’t matter how much I’m making…I’m unhappy. If I love them, I can often overlook a less than stellar salary.

    But wanting to take less salary for something that could make me happy? I’d like to say I’d do it but it’s hard to give up the money you are used to making when the economy is so bad. But in the long run I think I’d have to go with what makes me happy..even if it does mean less money.

    You’ve been incredibly inspiring with this post (and others) and your career change. Thank you!

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  44. Kristyn says

    Best quote ever, Julie. “It’s ok to care more about yourself than your paycheck.” Positive quote for everyone out there who is unhappy with their job in such an awful economy…trying to make the best decisions. Rock on, girl! Love the blog too. I’m always coming back for more PB!

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  45. Dawn @ Blonde on a Mission says

    I took an internship with no pay to truly figure out if I wanted to do what I thought I wanted to do with my life. Spending 3 months writing for a public relations publication were the best 3 months of my life, money be damned. I’d do it for free for the rest of my life if I could. But now that I know, I can happily say I’ll be doing that after I graduate. I currently dread everyday of my part time job though. I freelance for a magazine for money on the side, but I work in a restaurant that I don’t even like and my boss is absolutely dreadful. She breeds negativity and I don’t want that in my life.

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  46. Lindsay says

    I feel extremely lucky to be where I am now professionally and financially. I say “lucky” but of course it took a long time and a lot of work to get here. I left my for-profit job 7 years ago, took a pay cut and took on a ton more hours and stress to work at a nonprofit raising money for cancer research. The job was extremely hard, but extremely rewarding and fun (went not totally stressful!)! I worked two jobs in order to maintain a decent lifestyle without going into debt. I maintained this for four years until a better paying, but equally rewarding nonprofit opportunity presented itself. I look back on those years and remember the long hours and the tears over not being able to afford this or that and in my worst moments charging gas or groceries b/c I literally did not have the money, but in the end, I learned SO much. I make almost double what I made then now, but I still do not have cable, still keep a budget and simply am able to splurge a bit more and save a TON more. Those years set me up for success financially in the long run…

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  47. Paige says

    This post really hits home for me. I recently made the decision to quit my job and move across the country with my boyfriend for his own job opportunity. Though I don’t regret quitting that job for a MINUTE (I was totally miserable and cried probably 4 out of 5 days of the work week), it was really, really hard to quit a well-paying job with a top company. My parents support me but they don’t really understand that my happiness is more important to me than ANY job will be. Right now I’m FUNemployed, but I’m hopeful that the next job I have will be rewarding in both salary and happiness.

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  48. Amanda Jewell @ Science&Bananas says

    So incredibly true. Unfortunately, as much as we hear it from others, I feel that this is a lesson that is typically only learned thru experience. But once you come to the realization, life gets more enjoyable

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  49. says

    I agree with you, if you are really unhappy it is better to find something different – even if it pays less. Obviously you want to make sure you can still live on the new pay but I think that almost always the reduction in pay will be worth it if you are really unhappy with your current job. Money can’t buy happiness 🙂
    I have had a job that made me miserable – more the people I worked with made me miserable. Luckily the job I left for paid more so it was a double bonus. But even when I was looking for jobs I wasn’t looking at the pay as much as what would make me happier.
    Great post!

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  50. says

    I love that you wrote this post! That was me a little over a year ago, I hated my life because of my job!

    I quit with nothing else lined up and 2 months later found the perfect job…with a $20k paycut.
    I have been here a year and it is 100% worth it, I do not know how I lived in such stress and unhappiness for so long.

    I think it is so great that you and all of the commenters are sharing these stories. In college everyone was all abotu being driven landing a good job, moving up, and making $$, in the end, that path isn’t for everyone and I think it is SO important for others out there to realize that there is so much more than a fancy title and big paycheck!

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  51. Faith @ lovelyascharged says

    I had the worst of both worlds at the preschool – not only did I hate it, but the money was more or less minimum wage. Because of that, I didn’t have to think twice about the $ when I realized I HAD to leave the place for my mental and physical health.

    Leaving was the best thing I’ve ever done, and even though I think there can be stress at any job, there are healthy levels of stress (which you can handle when you’re doing something you love, like writing for me) and levels where you just positively can’t handle it (like getting peed on by other people’s whining, screaming kids).

    At the end of the day though, you can’t go with the pay. Money can’t fix being overworked, stressed out and irritable from hating what you do for 8 hours a day. I honestly don’t know how I still have friends after those five months of being a miserable and teary-eyed witch!

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  52. says

    Oh jeez, thank you so much for this post Julie! I’m going to be a senior in college this next year, and I’m deciding between pursuing my masters in education or going to law school. I know that I would LOVE being a teacher, but I would make a lot more money as a lawyer. You (and Ryan) make a great point, and I realize that I need to add the happiness I would receive from teaching into my pro-cons list before I make a final decision!

    Thanks so much!

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  53. says

    Well, if that wasn’t the EXACT thing I needed to hear today. I current work as an Extended Campus Coordinator for my alma mater. I love my school dearly and what better way to pay back than to recruit students to attend one of its many extended campuses?

    Well, it’s starting to drain me. I perform the function of recruiter, financial aid, business office, registrar, bookstore, career counselor, and instructor. For as many students as I can recruit. We start an undergrad cohort each August and a grad cohort each January. Nonstop. Year round. No “vacation”, unless you count the 2 weeks of Christmas and the week after. 40+ hours per week on minimal salary.

    I’ve considered putting in applications for better paying jobs more in line with my dream career (working in mental health, using my Master’s degree, and working with kids). I even found a job that I would love (that comes with a $6-9k pay RAISE), and yet I find myself not going for it because I don’t want to put anyone in a state of chaos (and right now there is a lot of chaos in my specific region with people being hired new & others on maternity leave). This blog post MIGHT have just given me the push I need to pursue this other job!

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  54. says

    I have a hotel management degree and probably took one of the most difficult jobs out of college, as a housekeeping supervisor. I was working at a five star five diamond resort and the demands of the job were crazy! I seriously was getting gray hairs at 22! I literally cried every day after work! After a year I transferred to a supervisor position at the front desk, but after getting cursed out every day by guests for things I couldn’t control, I decided to quit my job and go back to grad school. Fortunately my parents were able to help support me financially as I go back to school! Now I’m about to graduate with two masters degrees and have to find a job that will make me happy, not super stressed out all the time!

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  55. Lindsey says

    Thanks so much for this post Julie. I am currently working in a job that I enjoy, but I am paying $12 per day to park in the city. I don’t feel comfortable on the bus and that’s the only other option. It kills me to dish out that amount of cash every day, but I feel like it is integral to my work/life balance, so I do it. Sometimes the money isn’t worth it to sacrifice your happiness!

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  56. says

    I loved this post. The only job I’ve had as an adult is the one I’m at now (teacher), and too much money definitely isn’t an issue ; ) But I was just having this conversation with my dad the other day: I know, as a teacher, that I’ll never be rolling in dough, but I’d rather be secure and happy and CONTENT than making a ton of money and being miserable. Now, if I could make a ton of money AND be happy, then we’d be talking!

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  57. Angela says

    Thank you for this honest post. I am in a similar situation. My husband and I have a wonderful, beautiful baby and he absolutely is the most important person in the world to us. When he was born I left my good paying job to be a stay at home mom. Yes, the extra income would be nice, but the thought of having to send my son to day care breaks my heart. We may not eat at fancy restaurants or go on any elaborate vacations the way we did pre-baby, but my hubby and I are way happier than we have ever been because family comes first.

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  58. says

    I KNOW I could never do a 9-5 office job. I did them in college – and I hated them (thankfully, I knew it was just a short term type of thing). I teach. Does it pay the most in the world? No. Will I ever make as much as some people in the business world make? Nope. Not a chance. Do I love my job.. absolutely. Stil, there are times when I am stressed to the max, come home and cry .. and through myself a pity party. But those are few and far between!

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  59. Dana says

    I got a job at a firm right out of law school (and graduating law school in 2008.. i was lucky to get any job). the junior associate training me called me stupid, i cringed everytime my blackberry buzzed and prayed that the morning wouldn’t come. and then something wonderful happened… i got laid off. and a month later took a short-term contract position that paid $10,000 less when pro-rated yearly. my contract position ended up lasting two years, I loved it and it ended up giving me fantastic learning experience and resume builders. as a result of that, i took a more senior position elsewhere (i loved the job but knew there was no growth opportunity), and although i was coming from a lower salary, was able to ask for a salary more in line with where I was right out of law school, thanks to my extra experience. And, they ended up giving me a little more than i asked for.

    I’m stressed at work, I’m busy, and i do sometimes log on from home/think about work when i’m not here. but it doesn’t dominate my entire life and i have no more sunday dread. i hope this is encouraging.

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  60. says

    I kinda want to cry. I guess nothing was TRULY sad, but just hit home with me. That’s me! Right now I’m working part time and going to school full-time for Photography. Photography is what I want to do, it’s rewarding and I LOVE doing it. If I’m going to spend the days away from my daughter…it better be doing something I love. I’m stuck right now, because I need to work to get thru school, but I’m really hoping after next Spring….I’ll have my own business and find that HAPPINESS!!!

    I know if I set my mind to it…it can be done!! (thanks for the reminder) 😉

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  61. says

    WOO what a great post – I don’t know anyone who won’t relate to this. It’s very hard to find balance – to ensure you’re making enough to be happy, but to where you’re not working too much to be, well unhappy. Why have lots of money if you don’t have time to spend it?! I try to find balance – and thankfully my company believes in that. I value my one work from home day a week, and my flexible schedule. If ‘the job’ that paid less was THE job, the one that suits me so well, I like to think I could take a cut because it would be worth it in the long-run!

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  62. says

    What a great post today! Finding happiness in your work is hard to do, especially sometimes right out of college. I remember my first post-grad job being just that, a job. It was to kill time before heading off to grad school to prepare for a profession I truly loved. A few weeks into the job, I knew that the grad school path was definitely the right one. What I didn’t realize was how much the job changed me while I was working there. It wasn’t until after I was working somewhere else that I felt as if I was returning to my old self. Sometimes, finding the profession you’re happiest in takes time.

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  63. says

    So I’ve tried to comment like 3 times and for some reason it hasn’t been cooperating with me. So I apologize if for some reason you’re getting this message multiple times!

    But the new updo you posted is beautiful! Let us know which one you decide on! 🙂

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  64. Katie says

    I was beyond miserable in my last job. I worked for a micromanager, who basically undermined every decision I made. But after four years of being utterly miserable, I realized it wasn’t worth it. (I couldn’t quit, because I needed some type of income. But I did try like hell to find a new one.) Instead of dwelling on my misery, I tried to be thankful and happy and positive. Then, ironically, a few months later, I was laid off. It’s been over 8 months and I’m still looking for a new job. Even more ironically, I was contacted by my former boss, who was also laid off, about a new opportunity. Who knows what will happen, but I’ve realized I’m in control of my happiness. That’s not to say I will never work in a toxic work environment again, but I think I’ve learned how to deal a little better. At least I think so.

    Awesome post today!! 🙂

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  65. says

    Yea, money doesn’t buy happiness but you know what really sucks? A job that pays you no money yet gives you major stress at the same time. That must be a huge blow to someone’s ego…i know quite a few people in that situation and I seriously want to cry for them.

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  66. says

    My first year out of college I taught 6th grade in a low income school to a group of students who had all failed 6th grade the previous year. I thought I was up for the challenge, but I ended up crying at least once a week over it. I was never so happy as the day that school year ended! I left teaching and took a training job that paid $5K less, and now have worked my way back into a teaching position that I love! It all works out in the end!

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  67. Danielle Spellman(Squirrel Snackin') says

    Amazing post! and perfect timing. 🙂 I’m moving to Florida in 14 days and I’m getting a ton of pressure from my parents to get a job that will make a lot of money.. I’m moving to be happy and find a job that I will be happy doing. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way!

    P.S. I hope my blog name doesn’t scare you..I read your post on all about your love for squirrels 😉

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  68. says

    Awesome post!!! I currently have never had a job, but your advice is wonderful and I will definitely remember it when the time comes! 😀

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  69. Whitney says

    I left a job three months ago that made me feel all the things you mentioned above. I hated life M-F from 8-6 pm. I am not a crier, but I cried virtually everyday I worked there because I felt so hopeless and trapped. Now, I can look back and be thankful for spending a year of my life in hell b/c I wouldn’t have the wonderful job I have today. Now, I love getting up and going to work everyday…it’s awesome!

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  70. says

    I totally agree with you! I’m studying to become a psychologist and want to work in a children’s hospital later, which will pay 50% less than in a private clinic. Some people don’t understand that choice but I believe I won’t miss the money if I love my job!

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  71. Katelyn @ Chef Katelyn says

    I love love love this. I am going into college and these thoughts are on my mind too. We always had the thing with the lights — you DONT leave them on in our house! I especially agree with your relationship with Ryan — that is how I am hoping the current one I am in will turn out. He’s so much better than my previous relationship. Anywho. Money < happiness. You can't buy happiness. Wonderful message mahdear!

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  72. says

    SUCH a great post! I think that yes, money is important – but you should never forego on dreams just because of money. My husband and I recently had this conversation because the “B” word came up – he’s worried about money because I want to stay home when we have kids someday. I told him “we’ll make it work. I would be absolutely miserable with someone else raising my babies.” He completely understands and we’re on the same page – yahoo!

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  73. says

    I am so glad I read this today. I, too, had (have) a job that I just don’t even want to discuss when i come home from work, and I am depressed all days of the week except Saturdays. I’ve also cried because I had to go to work and I just didn’t like my job. I feel like I’ve completely lost myself and even my desire to do the things I love to do when I get home from work because I’m so exhausted. Last week I put my notice in at my job to accept a position that offers significantly less money, but it’s what I love to do. I’m really scared and a little stressed about if the money situation will work out, but I’m really excited to spend my days actually happy with what I do. Life is too short and you’re husband right, we should all just seek happiness with our lives, whatever that is for us.

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  74. says

    I’m dealing with this now. I was very fortunate to be brought up in a home where none of us ever wanted for anything- there were always plenty of Christmas presents, vacations, cars on our sixteenth birthdays and private schools. I am so, so, so thankful to my parents for giving me those opportunities, but I’m starting to realize that the paths that make me happiest probably won’t support that kind of lifestyle, at least not for a long time. I wouldn’t accept a job in which I had to stress about not paying the bills, but I’m okay with living with less in order to be happy. Money doesn’t make life better, it just makes it easier in certain situations.

    Funny you mention the thing about your ex in comparison to Ryan. I just got out of my three year relationship a few weeks ago because I realized I didn’t feel important to him. And while breakups are never easy, I can honestly say that I’m a happier person because of it 🙂

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  75. says

    Another post nailed, Julie! I just quit my job because I completely lost interest in and felt like I wasnt getting much out if it. It reached a stage where I’d walk in and count down till the end of the day which is nuts! They were almost begging me to stay but I refused, my happiness and sanity is worth more than any job!

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  76. Jennifer says

    I love the hair-do, hope you do it and maybe you can give us a tutorial on how you did it?

    To answer your questions, yes, I was in an absolute miserable job. I was an underwriter for AIG, an insurance company and stayed for 5 years. It just wasn’t for me, I am such a people person and couldn’t stand sitting at a desk all day. But I got my wish, I got pregnant with our first child and took the most amazing, rewarding job of being a stay at home mom. This is what I have always wanted to do! (I am not taking away from mom’s who work, insurance just wasn’t for me). If I find something I truely loved then I would feel differently.

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  77. says

    I was miserable teaching. Sad thing is I didn’t even realize it because I was too scared to think that what I had put so much effort into pursuing wasn’t truly fulfilling. I’m MUCH happier now pursuing my dreams. The money certainly isn’t there to compare to a full income but that doesn’t mean it won’t grow into something. And regardless I will be HAPPY. Great post!!!

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  78. says

    I can totally relate to you Julie. I quit my job this past November and I never looked back. I’m not at home baby sitting my neice at about a 1/4 of my salary, but I don’t regret it for a single second.

    I was so unhappy the way you were, dreading Monday morning and so stressed every night when I got home. Yes I had more money but I wasn’t able to enjoy everyday life with my family because I was so stressed.

    Now I’m truly at my best and I’m home where I always wanted to be, here for my son and so happy.

    You did a great thing for yourself.

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  79. says

    This is SO timely for me Julie! I totally hear what you are saying. I feel like it’s also so easy to get into a rut thinking that I might not have the skills to leave my current job too – it’s hard to break that rut and go for something better!

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  80. says

    Julie I have a feeling you will be SO thankful for your decision to follow your passion when you and Ryan have kiddos of your own (if that is your path :)). This is where I have had to make these choices.

    I graduated Dental Hygiene school, a job that I love, even with hours that are great! It’s very relaxing to me. But right when I graduated we were blessed with our first child. I have never had a full time or part time job as a hygienist. So I have a degree where I could make $50-$60k+ a year, but I choose to work from home at this point making a lesser income so I can be with them.

    When you pursue your passion, it can turn into something that you’ve never dreamed of, and when you help enough people in your life get what they want, you will get what you want (a popular Zig Ziglar quote). Often when you work from your passion, SO many others will benefit because you can give your best :).

    So while I love hygiene work and it is A passion, working from home at the moment is more of my passion, because it means I can be at home with my kids while they are in their younger years before school.

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  81. says

    While money is obviously important, I do feel that happiness nees to factor in, as well. If you have teh world’s best paying job but you’re miserable then the money really isn’t worth it. I would rather have a slimmer paycheck and be happy. I can’t imagine dreading going to work everyday. Mondays are one thing, but every single day? That would just be awful.

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  82. says

    That’s a very interesting post!
    I think money definitely doesn’t bring happiness but it contributes to it. I agree with you, what’s important is to be happy and be with the people you love. I think it is also important to have a job that you appreciate a minimum because it’s a big part of your life all the same!

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  83. says

    I love this post and you posted it at such a perfect time in my life. I’m currently in the middle of making a couple HUGE decisions that will affect not only job status but more importantly my overall happiness!! Funny how things appear when you need them to! Thanks for your perspective on this – it was nice and helpful to read 🙂

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  84. says

    Thank you for writing this Julie. I am feeling similarly toxic about my current work envrionment and this was good to read. Living in the DC area and having the husb to take into consideration makes taking a chance a little harder, but overall I think it will be worth it.

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  85. says

    I loved this post! I would love more than anything to get another job. My current job is not anything that I want to do with my life. I am definitely not making enough money to live off of which causes me to work ridiculous hours just to get overtime. I wish more than anything that I could quit. Unfortunately, I am in excessive student loan debt so I couldn’t even if I wanted to. My goal is to get a job that I absolutely love which is in the field of what I want to do and that I will make enough money to support myself financially. 🙂 I hope one day soon that comes true.

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  86. says

    I’ve definitely had jobs I hated but I tolerated them because they were short-term with a definite end-date. I would much rather be happy and poorer than miserable and richer. The feeling of dread on Sundays isn’t worth any amount of money! But then that’s easier for me to say as I don’t have any children to support – myself and my boyfriend are happy to scrimp and save in order to have a better working week.

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  87. Chelsey @ Jam&Run says

    Julie, can I ask what your family thought when you told them you wanted to quit your fulltime job and focus on freelance writing & blogging? I am very curious – only because if I put myself in your shoes, I think my parents would freak out and not be very supportive of that. I guess I’m just curious how that conversation went, though I can tell from previous blog entries that your parents are very supportive of you!

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      i waited until i was at a point where i could financially afford to make the switch – where my blogging and freelance work equaled an actually salary, so i think that made them stomach my decision a little better. i was nervous to tell them about it, but my dad almost saw it as me starting my own business and they were both unbelievably supportive – thank goodness!

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  88. says

    I loved this post and I can relate! When I had my baby I decided half way through my maternity leave that I needed to stay home and take care of my beautiful baby girl. We took a 24,000 pay cut, but I knew it was the right decision and me and my husband have never looked back. It definitely is the hardest, but happiest job i have had, and a whole different kind of stress!

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  89. Erin @ Naturally Addicted says

    This post could not have hit home any harder! My last job was so stressful. I would go and sit in my car around lunch and cry because I hated my job so much. Every Sunday I woke up with a pit in my stomach! I had been looking for a new position for a few months, then I was let go. While it was very hard for me to understand at the time, I have now realized it was the best thing that could have ever happened to me! Wow, what a long comment! I would definitely take less money if I was happier!

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  90. says

    I’m going through this process now but not as extreme. I am a crossroads a little over a year out of college. I could go fo the next big job or do something on my own. Quality of life is huge. Great post!

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  91. says

    As one of the lucky ones (lucky few, it looks like, from the comments!) I was able to find a job I loved right out of college and thus don’t have any other work to compare it to, or any other paycheck. That aside, my beau worked a night shift for about a month that paid so great (especially due to weird hours/overtime) but nearly RUINED him, and our time spent together. It is definitely, in my opinion, not worth being so steadily miserable all the time, no matter how much the money (maybe billions would be an exception.)

    Great post, clearly received and heard loud/clear by many out there! I hope they all find the job satisfaction and life satisfaction they want!

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  92. Leanne@Coffee&Claptrap says

    Oh wow, I’m totally feeling like this at the minute and I feel TRAPPED. I wake every Sunday morning down in the dumps because of the week I have ahead of me. I don’t get the support I need at work and I feel like I’m never out of the place.

    I definitely don’t have a work/life balance sorted out and it’s driving me nuts 🙁 I don’t know where to turn as it’s so hard to get a job in the UK at the moment 🙁

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  93. says

    Awesome, awesome post, Julie!
    You already know that this post speaks to me, since I’m going through some tough times myself with not only trying to figure out what I want to do with my life, but also dealing with the severe pay cut that Jay and I have taken. It’s a tough road, but reminding myself that happiness has to come first is what I need to do more. Hopefully, the rest is going to fall into place soon 🙂

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  94. Amanda @ Sistas of Strength says

    Great post girl! You couldnt be more right! I was actually in a situation at one job where I was staying basically because of the money and we all ended up getting massive pay cuts! My salary was cut by 10k and I continually felt under appreciated as well as extremely under paid. Totally can relate to the sunday blues you get when you hate ur job. That’s the worst feeling. My husband and I are saving to open a gym which is a dream of both of ours and I can’t wait to do what I love!

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  95. Katie says

    I’m sort of in the same position–
    I’m not necessarily MISERABLE, but I’m not happy. I’m not challenged and I’m not utilized to my abilities. When I show interest in learning other aspects of the office, I’m told I don’t have to worry about it–that it’s not my job. It stinks.
    I work for a nonprofit, so I don’t think I can fathom making less than I actually do now, but in new jobs, I don’t turn away from jobs that pay the same as what I make now. I’m just really looking forward to finding that PERFECT job in the big city (BYE BYE car, car payments, + pollution!) where I’m able to use my talents to HELP the community. Geez, I’m such a cheeseball.

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  96. Shell says

    I work in non-profit at a job that I love. The pay isn’t spectacular, but I really don’t mind because I’m happy.

    This is the first job that I have had, where I’m not searching for other jobs in my free time!

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  97. SaraRM says

    Man oh man I definitely relate to this one!! I have been in the exact situation and I ultimately went with happiness. I left my job before having a back up after many discussions with my husband. Money was tough for a while and there was a lot of self worth issues for having to rely on my husband for support but the bottom line was that I was happy which made my husband happy and our relation even better. In the mean time I worked out a lot, found a LOVE for running, helped my husband by taking over team workouts(he’s a coach) and ended up finding my true passion and worked my way to become a personal trainer. The road to get there was not a short one nor an easy one but I absolutely love what I am doing. I understand more people than not dont have the option to go with out a job to find their passion but I definitely think its worth the time to look for it. I would hands down take a 10k cut if it meant a peace of mind and happiness with my family.

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  98. Becca says

    It’s sad to see so many people are silly enough to believe that money is at all worth pursuing. It comes down to this: do you want to live a big picture life, or a small one? The factors that determines what professions are “lucrative” are extremely limited. It changes over time. It has nothing to do with you or your talents as a person. Do you want to live in a way that lets society define you? Or do you want to be yourself and do what you can to define society? I sincerely hope people think this way and always choose the latter. Don’t major in what’s lucrative. Don’t think of careers. Do what you are talented with, what you have a passion for. Let the rest work itself out.

    To do otherwise is to be small in the world.

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  99. Mellissa says

    Having a job you love is so much more important than money. Yes being comfortable helps but it isn’t worth the stress and no life! I left a 70+ hour a week job because at the end of the day that decent salary was very little at that many hours.

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  100. Katherina @ Zephyr Runs says

    Oh man. I quit a job that promised me the world because I was miserable and took a job in the restaurant world! I’m so much happier at the restaurant… 9-5ing just doesn’t jive with me, personally, so this change was perfect. I am brilliantly frugal so the pay cut doesn’t matter much to me at all. Being happy is priceless.

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  101. Holly says

    I am fortunate to have a job that I adore, working with people who feel the same way. I do not make a fortune, but I make enough and I don’t work all the time. I didn’t have an extravagant upbringing in the material sense, but all of our basic needs were met well and I was with my family a lot. I have just carried that sentiment with me in my day to day life and more importantly, my marriage. My husband and I work to live, not live to work. I would rather have extra hours each day together than occasionally glancing toward the next carved out vacation months down the road and never seeing each other until then. It truly is about balance and identifying what is important to you.

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  102. says

    This is so great…some people I know who just graduated are all excited because they’re going into the finance industry, and it does pay a ton, but they’re working 80+ hour weeks. Whenever I hear about things like that I always think “Sure you have all this money, but where – and WHEN – are you going to spend it?”

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  103. Dukebdc says

    Wow, my husband and I have these discussions from time to time, usually after he bemoans another ceiling being implemented on his overtime. Even without any of his overtime, we are very comfortable financially, and I try to point out the positive aspects of not working those extra hours–more time together, or time to follow hobbies, or just time to unwind before bedtime.

    And given that I grew up in a much more financially stable household than he did, I do wonder if that colors our opinions. I had more than enough growing up, so I am well aware of what I can do without, whereas he was always aware of what he lacked, such as when his parents didn’t use the heat in wintertime to save money, and he slept in several sleeping bags to stay warm.

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  104. says

    Yes, I’ve had a crappy job…and it didn’t even pay well! What was I thinking?! I agree with you: happiness is much more important than money. I’m a stay-at-home making no money but we are extremely happy that way and we make it work 🙂

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  105. says

    First off, I love the hairstyle you’ve chosen! I think that will look beautiful for your friend’s wedding.
    Regarding the money question… excellent discussion going on here. I am fortunate to have been with a company that I love, doing what I grew up dreaming of doing for nearly eight years now. At times it’s been tense, but at the end of the day I’m giving back to my community (my company is non-profit) and I usually get to check out a free show that I helped to produce! When I accepted my position, I was making a very meager salary, but it’s paid off in the long run with invaluable experience and relationships. Now, I’m a little more comfortable (still on a non-profit wage) but am also taking more time for home life and ‘me’ time.

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  106. Nicole G says

    Very awesome post. Right now, I have anxiety over a job interview tomorrow. I have a hard time balancing life at home and work. My job, no matter what postiion I hold in my job (law enforcement) is quite stressful. My husband is also a police officer and we have two children. Life can be quite crazy. I am always torn between what I want in my career and my home life. It is a struggle. I hope one day to get myself out of the tangled ropes 😉

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  107. says

    I worked in sales for a year selling UPS to local businesses. So much driving, negativity, and rejection! I remember crying to my mom on the phone as I sat in my car, not wanting to go into another office. I quit, took a lower paying job, and applied to Optometry School. I just finished my first year and I LOVE it!

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  108. says

    Here’s the way I see it: you get one chance at living the life you’ve got. Nothing comes with you at the end of it. Is making money important? Absolutely. I would be surprised to find anyone who doesn’t care about making enough to support themselves/those they care for. I think the problems start when we get greedy–yeah, we’re living a comfortable life, but the Joneses just bought a new Lexus, and it sure would be nice if…. You know? That trap. That’s just a never ending cycle of getting getting getting that, and the end of the day, truly means nothing if you’re miserable. Some people are certainly stuck in stressful jobs for financial reasons. Other people just see themselves as “stuck” in a stressful job because they’re not willing to give up any part of the lifestyle they currently lead.

    Great post, btw.

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    • says

      yes, yes, yes. 100% agree. a church service i attended about two months ago touched on this… about being happy with the success you have NOW because it’s in our nature to want, want, want even after we achieve goals we set for ourselves.

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      • Becca says

        Your success is not yours. We may work hard, but do we work harder than people scrounging for a living in third world countries? No. We’re incredibly lucky. That’s all there is to it. Luck. We deserve nothing. Even wanting a “comfortable”living is a big problem. It’s not okay.

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  109. says

    I relate to so many items in this post and applaud you for putting your happiness first!

    When I moved to NYC, I transferred in a very high stress job at a large PR firm. But while it was crazy in Chicago, it was absolutely out-of-control in NYC. I actually slept at the office a couple of time :-(. Well, more like worked all night. Finally, I realized, it wasn’t just the job, but the environment.

    Which is how I found this job I’m at right now. I couldn’t be happier at the place I’m at. It’s literally the perfect fit. The people and the culture fit me like a glove.

    But at the same time, my dream of working at a magazine is always in the back-of-my-mind, since I work with so many writers/editors as a part of my PR job. I’d definitely take a pay cut to make that happen. I’m all about pursuing the dream! Even if i’m content with this job, why not go for it all? 🙂

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  110. says

    Julie, I am so happy you posted this. I am currently in a situation where I feel like I need to get out. I transferred to this job from a somewhat less stressful situation where I wasn’t overworked, got paid $10K less, but definitely had my sanity! I wanted more money and was “bored”, but now I am so sorry I ever left and am currently looking for other opportunities (“in the little time I have”–any suggestions??) and even contemplating going back to where I was and taking a pay cut. I know the feeling you had and it is absolutely miserable. I crave more time with my boyfriend, more time to cook, more time to blog, I am the same way on the weekends as you were. I wish there was an easy fix, but it takes time!

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  111. says

    I totally agree with this post! Money does not equal happiness. It can help, but not always.

    I just graduated from university and have been struggling H-A-R-D to find a job in my field. I’m working retail right now with barely full time hours and a minimum wage salary. It stinks and I stress so much every day about it. I think this is one of the cases where a higher pay could help alleviate some of my stress.

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  112. says

    Obviously you did an amazing job writing this post w/ the 133 comments. I am adding this post to my twitter as well. I couldn’t agree more. There has to be a fine balance. Overworked–no time for anything, even spending all the money you work so hard for = stress. Love your job, but don’t make enough money = stress. Balance is key. I think less money, but passion for what you do and time to enjoy yourself and others and increase your passion for your job and not dreading always is best. Who knows, the job that makes less now, may make you more later. Reason = your passion shines through more and someone out there sees this, appreciates it and offers you more. Something to think about.
    Suzanne

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  113. Stephanie says

    My job isn’t stressful in itself, but there is stress in the fact that the company is currently in liquidation and there is no timeline as to if and when people’s positions will be eliminated. It’s scary and some days I don’t like going to work because it feels like there’s a black cloud over the building. I have a tentative plan for when my time to leave the company comes though, plus I have my husband’s income as well, so it’s not as bad as it would be if I were single. I truly feel for the people at my company who rely solely on their own income to pay the bills…not a good situation at all.

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  114. says

    I was definitely there a few years ago. I worked at a law firm for three years after college (it had nothing to do with my major, it just kind of fell into my lap). I enjoyed working with the people there, and the work wasn’t completely terrible. However, I felt like I was wasting my time – I didn’t truly enjoy what I did and I felt no passion for it whatsoever. I was in the process of getting my masters degree in education and was looking for a teaching position. I finally got an offer for the job that I wanted so badly, but the pay was about $7500 less – ouch. Like you, I didn’t want to miss that money, but I did want to be happy. I am going on my third year of this teaching job, and I have no doubt that this is exactly what I am supposed to be doing. I’m so glad you are enjoying what you are doing now! Money definitely doesn’t buy happiness!

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  115. says

    this post is great, and i’m just so happy that now you are able to be happy! i’ve always believed that the best thing in life is to do something that you enjoy, surround yourself with people you want to be around, and try not to get too hung up on the material things. that said, duh, isn’t that like a perfect world…and i stress about the finances and am afraid of living in a box, etc.

    But i’d like to think that if i were in the position as your friend i’d get out of the situation. in life, i think it has a way of working it’s way out and something will open up for her..a job that isn’t making her life hell. you had a lot of courage to do so and i admire that. i also have to say just how sweet it is that ryan has always put your first and made that KNOWN. that guy’s a keeper, but u knew that…lol. 🙂

    thanks for sharing this and on a different note, ya, when u’re living with rats there is no such thing as a 5 second rule! 😛

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  116. says

    I’ve had a couple jobs that I absolutely hated. At some point I always would end up in tears because I just didn’t want to go to work.

    I finally quit my last job after things got really bad, but it left me with no urge to find another job. Now I’m rethinking what I want to do in hopes that I’ll finally find a job that makes me happy.

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  117. says

    Love that style hair! That’s kind of what I did in my brother in law’s wedding, the side chignon. Worked well with my fine hair.

    I love my job as a concierge but last year I was unhappy at the hotel I worked at. When I was offered a job at a hotel that I LOVED, the pay was significantly less but I took it anyway because I knew I would be happy. Turned out, a week later, the pay was raised and now I’m making more than I was at the last hotel. 🙂

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  118. says

    I knew going into my profession that teaching was not going to be my dream pay job. I am okay with it, because when Monday comes I don’t dread work. The job also allows me so much time to travel and enjoy life. I think happiness is so much more important than money.

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  119. says

    My wedding up-do consists of taking all of curls gathering them in the back and putting like 30-40 bobby pins in there with lotsssss of hair spray 🙂

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  120. says

    I love the latest up-do find! That one is super cute!
    As far as the job thing goes, I’m 27 and still in school. I’m a 5th year graduate student and can’t wait to get out of school and get a Big Girl Job. As much as I hate grad school right now, it makes me worry about getting into the real world and getting a job. Will all this schooling be worth it? Will I even find something I like? Or end up opening a bakery or something pretty much not even related to chemistry.
    Growing up has it’s ups and downs but it’s nice to know that there are people out there that have similar bumps in the road as me.
    Thanks for your post!!

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  121. Lucy says

    Wow, reading this post today made me realize what I knew all along. I have been following my husband around with his jobs for the last 5 years (which I do not regret for one second! ), as they gave us a perfect opportunity to travel around the world!

    However since we have stopped here in the US, I feel like I have just ended up going from one job that made me miserable to another just as it was what I was qualified to do. Even though really I have known since Uni, it’s not what I have any passion towards doing. So now, I am spending my time working out how to get to that job (low paid or not) that will make me not dread going into the office everyday.

    Thanks Julie (and all the other commentors!) 🙂

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  122. says

    Great post!! I can certainly relate.

    I work in fitness the money is not all that great….but I love what I do and I leave work each day feeling great and I don’t spend my hours outside of working thinking about work.

    I would not want to be in a job where all I thought about was work and worked extremely long hours…my happiness is not defined by money, nor is my success.

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  123. says

    i think a lot of us realized quickly that being in a job we hate isn’t worth anything–we spend so much time working, it’d be nice to at least HALF way enjoy it.

    yes, nursing school is hard, and i am making zero money right now, but i am already happier doing something i enjoy.

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  124. jessica corbin says

    I was so miserable at Comcast when I worked there for not even six months. I cannot count how many times I cried and that depressing feeling that you got was exactly how I felt. My shift was Saturday through Wednesday so I never had weekends with my boyfriend or my family. It was so terrible. my boyfriend and I talked about it and even with no job lined up, we both decided it was not worth depression because it was affecting EVERY part of my life.

    Now, I’m much better off in a new position and haven’t looked back! You can get better and be better. Money definitely does not make you happier, it helps, but it doesn’t last. I might not make a ton, but so much more rewarding and I’m the Jessica I always have been 🙂 all I say is welcome back!!!!

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  125. Kelly says

    Julie, I have to thank you so much for posting this! I couldn’t have come across this at a better time. I am, like many of the above comments, at a cross-road. I have a pretty decent paying job but the agony has gotten so bad that it has caused me to lose sleep, have anxiety attacks and generally changed my demeanor. I have been struggling to figure out if I would be ok with less pay. This post served as a nice reminder that there are better things to come, in due time 🙂

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  126. Lorin says

    I hated working at a summer job at an amusement park. I never got any training and my coworkers were not friendly whatsoever. I’ve never quit anything in my life, even when my high school basketball team had drama with coaches. Yet, I was crying after every shift and even cried the first day during a shift. Now, it’s hard coming home and trying to get a job, when you have to go back to college in September. No one really wants you for just 3 months, plus I don’t have a lot of work experience. Apparently its the lowest empolyment for teens this summer, but I”m not 100% on that. Sometimes, my sanity and happiness are worth not being able to buy everything I want.

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  127. Olivia says

    I think everyone experience this at some point in their life whether it’s before they actually start the job or shortly after entering the work force. For me, I prepared my whole life for being a doctor. I took extra science classes and probably did more than was healthy for me during college to make sure that I was prime candidate for medical school. However, at the end of my senior year I was required to do an internship and worked along side a Pediatric Nurse Practioner and a Pediatrician. One morning of rounds with them and I knew no matter how much it paid it was not worth it to me! I hated rounding, i wanted to interact with the patients. Saving myself hunderds of thousands on medical school and years of my life, I switched to nursing and I could not be happier. I love my job and look forward to the positive impact I make each day:)

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  128. says

    Julie this post is so timely for me. I’m a marketing manager at a major agency. Yes there are days I love it (thank goodness) because I love the people I work with and there are days (like today) that I seriously question my career choice. You know what they say, mo money’ mo problems. Its so true! My dad always said that if I based my happiness on my salary it would never be enough and he’s so right.

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  129. Jessie says

    I absolutely L-O-V-E this post. I am a recent graduate (one year out) and it took me 6 months to find a internship that turned into a full-time position. I’m currently working at the position and I absolutely hateeeeeeee it. I never have anything to do and I have a hard time staying positive with other things in my life when 40 hours of my week are awful. Unfortunately, the student loan payments I have are outrageous so I *have* to think about the $$ and cannot leave this job unless I can find a replacement to pay the loans… but I still loved this post because ALL I want for myself is to be happy and I keep pushing through in hopes that I’ll look back at this job and really appreciate my future 🙂

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  130. says

    I have had one job that I truly hated as a CNA. We were ridiculously overstaffed. I felt that I wasn’t even safe going to work and didn’t feel safe doing the things that they asked of me. I don’t know if I could answer the second question honestly right now because I have never had a high paying job since I haven’t graduated yet! I don’t think that money truly buys happiness though.

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  131. Layna says

    I read your blog a ton – even the bf recognizes it – but this is the first time I just HAD to comment. I’m five years out of college (gaah), but I am exactly here. Even the careers are similar, both what I do now and where I am hoping to go. I broke down hard to my bf over the weekend. The work dread and the weekday zombie life have become unbearable, especially as it’s putting insane pressure on my weekends to be amazing…and sort of ruining those as well.

    Yet I still am having a hard time coming to terms with the inevitable pay cut, even though I know I would be so much happier. It’s not even the money, exactly, since I don’t spend a lot generally. For me it is more about security, but what is the point of being secure in a life I don’t want?

    Thanks for giving some of us a strong push in the right direction! I need a lot of those right now 🙂

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  132. says

    Super cute hair !!! I bet It’d look super cute on you!
    let us know how it turns out! I want to try it sometime, too! Though not sure if itd work on asian hair lol.
    Great post about financial status vs happiness. I’m kind of struggling wroth the same thing. Im not quite sure where the balance is between being happy by not being overly stingy…vs. Being financially responsible, buying mostly just necessary items and not going overboard especially since I’ll be taking out a loans for med school

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  133. says

    WOW! Great post. I just finished nursing school in December and absolutely HATE my job right now. It’s not the money that is holding me back from finding a different job but the countless hours of working so hard to get where I am and then to find out that nursing is far harder than I expected. Tough decisions to make ahead for me.

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  134. says

    Fate must have brought me to this blog and post (my first visit, found via twitter)!

    I am going through this situation right now and feel stuck due to insurance and finances and even wrote about it last night. I dread going everyday. When I come home I feel sick and tired, literally.

    This isn’t worth it…..

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  135. says

    Thanks for the post and everyone else for commenting! It is an eye opener that I am not alone out their in the pursuit of happiness. It totally is not worth it, doing a job that makes you miserable and cry all the time. I was there just 3 months ago, up and quit without having anything sound lined up and it was the best decision ever! I feel like myself again, and can’t believe how I was living. While you need money to love, lower paying jobs that make you smile and give you life balance are well worth it.

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  136. says

    This post could not have come at a better time. In the last few months i’ve been working 13 hour days and weekends and i’ve been so miserable. It’s suppose to pass, but I don’t really see an end in sight. Everything(cooking/bloggin) & everyone I love have been put on the back burner since i barely have time to brush my teeth before i pass out and have to do it all over again. However, everyone tells me I’m lucky to have a job right now, and that I should just hang in there since it’s a tough time for most companies and i’m not the only one. That’s what I’m going to do for now, but i’m not sure how long i can last! At least I have a vacation to Europe in Sept that can’t be taken away from me! Thanks for the reminder of what’s important, I really need to take some time to reevaluate the situation instead of allowing myself to get sucked into this constant vaccuum of demands.

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  137. says

    Love this post, Julie! I just took a PR Manager position that a love, that came with a salary decrease that I hate(d). But the last job was sucking the life out of me — and this one is so fulfilling and rewarding. Money sure does make things easier sometimes when you’ve got it in excess, but it’s not everything.

    Congrats to you – hope you’re enjoying the new gig. 🙂

    xoxo,
    Jenn

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  138. says

    I love this Julie!! definitely spot on :). It’s so important to have a good work/life balance otherwise everything will go up in flames. I’ve also been in jobs where I felt miserable and def feel for you and your friend going through this. But I guess when you’re down, there’s nowhere else to go but up!

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  139. Merri says

    Such a great post Julie!!!! You are so motivating, I just love ya’ to pieces!!! I miss you and can’t wait for a visit 😉

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  140. Shayla @ The Good Life says

    Love this post! I was in a job that made me truly miserable. I started as a database administrator for a venture capital firm and truly loved it….then we had layoffs and I was left to support the CEO and took a 20% pay cut. Not only was I getting paid less, but the CEO was a egotistical, devil man and horrendous to work for. After putting up with his BS for 6 months, I quit, found a new job that I absolutely love, and have never been happier! I truly believe everything happens for a reason and I will never again put earning more money over my happiness 🙂

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  141. says

    Wow- this really hit home for me right now. I’m in a job that pays little (my first out of college) AND gives me little satisfaction/passion fulfillment. I started my blog – http://lavieeuropa.wordpress.com/ in an attempt to rekindle my passion for food, travel and the slower European lifestyle that I had when I traveled abroad.

    It has been bringing joy to my day and allows me to have a more positive work/life balance! Did you start your blog for similar reasons?

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  142. says

    This post really hits home for me. I’ve planned on going into a particular field since second grade and after an internship I knew I would be completely miserable sloggin it out for the pay I would receive. $ isn’t the be all end all, but if the job isn’t the greatest thing to ever happen to you a crazy-low wage isn’t going to cut it.

    Now I’ve transferred to a school in the state where my parents live to switch majors and save money while I figure out exactly what I want to do. Not having a plan is really intimidating, but taking control of the situation and making an effort to figure things out is the best I can do.

    Thanks for the great post, Julie!

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  143. says

    I was in a very similar situation after I came out of college with my 2nd job that I had. I HATED it. I dreaded each do going to it and was miserable when I was there. I was so close each day to walking in and quiting but I held tight until I did get another job although that job required a $10,000 pay cut. Thankfully, I had a VERY supportive husband and he agreed that money isn’t worth misery. It was the best decision I ever made leaving that job and I never regretted my decision. Being happy is not equated to making more money for that I am c ertain!

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  144. Alison says

    I totally relate to this post and all the awesome comments and success stories give me the hope i need at this point in my career.

    I am only about a year out of school, but the job that im in now is extremely stressful, my boss makes me dread coming into work every day, and im just not as passionate about what im doing as i thought i would be. I am very seriously considering going back to school for a nursing degree (i have a business degree) but its terrifying trying to figure out how i could pay for school and pay my bills at the same time. This post really drove home the idea that things may be tough for a while but as long as i’ll be happy, it will all be worth it.

    Thanks for your words of encouragement and all these awesome blog comments 🙂

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  145. Danielle says

    I love this post! I work in education and due to serious budget cuts positions get eliminated but the jub duties don’t. I am already doing the work of two people. With more changes happening my boss who used to do the job of two is now doing the job of three. I am at my breaking point.

    After your post when you announced you quit your job I took the opportunity to sit down with my husband and have a serious talk. I am in no position to quit. We need the money but I told my hubby I expected us to start being smarter with our money cause in a year I will want a change and it may mean less money. But if we don’t plan we may be in trouble when I up and quit. That is where I am. I dread going to work. I love the people but it is too stressful for me. He said he understood but I think I scared him a little when I said I was truly unhappy at work. I hope in a year we will be in a comfortable place with our finances so I can change jobs without worry.

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  146. Jessica says

    This post could have come at a more vital time in my life. I’m currently looking to relocate back home when the pay is much less, as well as the cost of living. I’m currently miserable in my situation. I work in a high demanding, high stress environment. It also stresses out my family and boyfriend to deal with me complaining and being depressed. I just found out I received a significant raise. I’m at a cross roads of continuing my job search or continuing to be miserable for the money. I’m leaning towards finding the new job. I know this current one is affecting my health and personal life. It’s a tough decision to make…

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  147. says

    This post showed up under one of your newest ones, and I’m SO glad I clicked the link! Next Friday is my last day at a job that pays very well, but which is unfulfilling, emotionally draining and not challenging enough. I have accepted a new position that pays, yes, $10,000 less and is part time. I have been super scared to make the change, but excited, too. This gives me new encouragement 🙂 Good luck on your move! xoxo

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  148. says

    So, I am about 20 days late responding to this post. However, I know exactly how you felt! Sadly, it was my husband who was stressed to the max about his job. ( I wish it was me instead of him) May 2009 he lost his job, due to a tanking economy. Mind you, this occured 3.5 months before our wedding day. His stress load increased to the max. We had just purchased a house, we were getting married in less than 4 months and he had no job. I remember his last day at that particular job. I sobbed my entire work day! All I could think was “now what” . Thankfully, many prayers were answered and my sweet honey got a new job one month before we were married. The first few months were OK, the last year was hell! When we went on our 1 year anniversary trip, he had to check his email 3-5 times a day because he was having to make sure all was going right at his job. Finally it got to the point where he dreaded going to bed at night, especially Sunday nights. I would ask him how his day was and all I received back was this blank stare. Things got to the point where I asked him if he had gotten yelled at any that day. He took the leap of faith and began applying for jobs. He accepted a position that payed $9,000 less per year just because we both knew he would be happier if he was anywhere but where he was. Yes, things were a little tight at times but seeing a smile on his face made all the money worries disappear. Now, because of his hard work he has received a substantial raise and things are back to normal. I wouldn’t trade losing that amount of money for anything, especially his happiness. Now that he is happy, I am happier and our home is happier. I think our puppy even noticed a difference in her “Daddy”.

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  149. says

    This was absolutely amazing and inspiring. My boyfriend is currently going through a bit of a job hardship/crisis and I can only imagine what he’s feeling. You’re right though; sometimes the money just isn’t worth it. It seems to me that almost everyone goes through this little “Oh god, what now?” situation following college graduation and I am just not looking forward to it. But with all of you guys already have gone through it, it’s makes it easier knowing that other people feel the same way.

    PS: I’m glad you made the change! 🙂

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  150. says

    I just read this (saw from your 7 links post!) and yes, could not agree more. I was stuck in a job because of the paycheck and it was MISERABLE. I actively looked for new jobs but didn’t have much luck. I was like you, I was home everynight on my laptop working, and I cried myself to sleep most nights. I was utterly miserable. Now, at a job where I’m contracting and less pay, but I am SO happy. Money isn’t worth your sanity, money isn’t worth your happiness!!

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  151. says

    I couldn’t agree more. I had an internship for a summer that I hated. Each day I woke up and dreaded the day. That is no way to live and I’m so happy I didn’t take a full-time position there.

    Good for you! I’m so glad you’re happy!

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  152. Shannon says

    I’m so late in the game on this post. But I remembered seeing it and wanted to give it a read. I’m being considdered for a new job and my main worry is that it will eat up my life. I’m struggling with the idea of turning it down..but I know time with my family, fiance and friends and time for myself is really important to me. We shall see.

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  153. Samantha says

    all I can say is WOW! I spent the last two weeks crying on my drive home from work. This post really spoke to me! Its nice to hear someone say “make yourself happy” all I seem to hear is ” you’re lucky to have a job and benifits just tuff it out” and what you are saying just reassures me that my thinking is correct what is money worth if you are miserable. I’m not me and that isn’t fair to the people in my life!
    Thank you again for this post it really spoke to my situation!

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  154. says

    I randomly stumbled across this post at such a perfect time! Thank you for your honesty and for putting the words out there that I have been trying to find for how I’ve been feeling about my job! It’s difficult to get to the point of realizing why a job is making you so unhappy and hearing your perspective in this post really captured what I’ve been trying to figure out. Thank you again!!

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  155. says

    I hate my job, every day, every second… and I can’t wait to get out. I’m not making that much so when I change, it shouldn’t be that big a deal. However, despite applying to every job I know, hitting up every contact, I’m not having much luck. I’m happy to learn that your new job back then gave you more happiness than the money did.

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