Things to Remember on My Wedding Day

This post is a long one full of wedding rambles, so let’s breeze through lunch!

Lunch today was an apple and Muenster cheese quesadilla, served on a whole-wheat tortilla and warmed up in the microwave in the breakroom at my work.

Wednesday Lunch

On the side I enjoyed a freshly-sliced green pepper for some added nutrients.

Green Peppa

Yay for green!

On to the wedding talk…

Warning: Wedding talk may dominate the blog for the next 10 days. ๐Ÿ˜€

Things I Want to Remember on My Wedding Day

Last night as Ryan and I were driving to game night at my friend Laurel’s apartment, I turned to him and told him about a mini revelation I had on my run on Tuesday morning.

I feel like I’ve been so wrapped up in the wedding and all of the little details like the menus, programs and bridesmaid gifts that I was almost overlooking the whole point of the weddingโ€ฆ Our marriage!

October 30... Be There!

It seems like there are so many last-minute details that come along with planning a wedding that it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of the big day. My mini revelation made me realize how important it is for me to remember why we’re having a wedding.

This thought really helped me put things into perspective. No matter what happens on our wedding day, it will be perfect because of the reason for the day.

Ever since we got engaged, I told Ryan that the part of our wedding day I am most looking forward is our ceremony and our vows.

Of course I cannot wait to see my friends and family and party the night away, but thinking about holding Ryan’s hands and committing ourselves to each other forever deeply moves me. Ryan and I have put a lot of effort into making our ceremony our own and I cannot wait to see our work come to fruition and hear our pastor read the loving words we’ve selected aloud.

Since I am a planner and a list-maker my nature, I decided to make a list of moments I really want to focus on during our wedding day:

  • Getting ready with my bridesmaids: Since many of my best friends live hundreds of miles away, I cannot wait to spend quality time with my friends who have made such a deep impact on my heart.

Friends Since Elementary School

Laurel, My Best Friend and College Roommate

  • Putting my dress on with my mom: One of my favorite things about my wedding dress is how much I think it looks like a modern-day version of my mother’s dress. My mom has been with me every step of the way during the whole wedding-planning process (and my life!), and I know watching her zip me in will be an emotional and moving moment.

Mama & Me

  • Walking down the aisle with my dad: I think my dad may be the person who is most excited for our wedding, but he is also the person I think will be the most emotional. I want to be sure to treasure the walk down the aisle with him.

Daddy's Girl

  • Seeing Ryan for the first time: I get goosebumps just typing this!
  • Saying our vows: I know marriage sounds so romantic, but I am also looking at our marriage as a decision and a commitment. I want to truly feel the vows I say and recognize their importance and realize how lucky I am to be committing myself to such an amazing man.
  • Celebrating with Ryan’s family: I feel very lucky to be marrying into such a warm and welcoming family and am excited to celebrate the merging of two groups of people I love very much.
  • Listening to my sister’s speech as maid of honor: I know whatever my sister says will be perfect. She has a way of conveying such sincerity and loving emotion whenever she speaks and I cannot wait to hear her toast.

Sista, Sista

  • Listening to the toasts from Ryan’s best men: Ryan has two wonderful best men with totally different personalities and I cannot wait to hear what they have to say!

One of Ryan's Best Men (Daniel, His Cousin & College Roommate)

  • My first dance with my dad: Grab a Kleenex!
  • Dancing and partying with friends: Ryan and I are so lucky to have so many of our friends coming in from out of town to celebrate our big day. I know our friends will be the life of our wedding and I cannot wait to party it up with friends from elementary school, high school and college.

Fun Friends!

  • Visiting with family: I cannot wait to catch up with family I haven’t seen in a long time and give BIG hugs to my grandma, aunts and uncles!

I know this post was beyond wordy, but I wanted to get all of my thoughts down so I can really concentrate on taking it all in on the big day. I also know that in all my words I am surely leaving something important out!

And that’s where you come in…

I would LOVE input and advice from you guys about moments I should be sure to take time to cherish on our wedding day.

Feel free to share memories from your wedding or weddings you’ve attended that particularly moved you.


  1. Kaella says

    I am so happy and excited for you! I’m glad you mentioned something about your mom…because I feel like sometimes (with the walk/dance with your day) mom’s can feel a bit left out. I’m not married…but when I do commit to someone one day, I hope all of these things you listed, are some of my strongest memories as well. Will be thinking of you all next week… as a reader, I’ve followed your journey (engagement, shower, stagette etc) and I just feel as excited for you as I would one of my girlfriends. Ryan and you are so lucky to have each other…. enjoy the moments ๐Ÿ™‚


  2. says

    Julie, this post is amazing! I think what you’re writing is so important and so true. Cherish EVERY moment and really soak it in. You’ve gotten the best advice. I’m so happy for you!

    Seeing you so excited and focused on the joy of the future excites me too! I’m still in college but I can’t wait for the day when my boyfriend and I can reach that stage of our life together!


  3. Jessica says

    Ok I didn’t read all of your comments so forgive me if I repeat things.
    A few pointers/comments from my wedding day experience:
    Look at Ryan you’re whole way down the aisle (but don’t forget to look good and cheese it up!-TONS of people are taking your picture), Take it all in-during our first dance, we would glance around at the room and our families and we kept saying over and over “holy crap, this is OUR wedding, all 300 (yikes!) people are here for US, to celebrate with US!” If you can see the reception room before everyone gets in there, do it-it’s crazy to see all of your hard work put together, sitting there looking beautiful! Make sure you dance and enjoy yourself! You will not be able to eat as much as you want. It will take you 25 minutes to walk from one side of the room to the other because everyone wants to say hi, tell you that you look beautiful, and ask where are you going for your honeymoon? You won’t talk to everyone in the room. You will have a HUSBAND-remember how lucky you are to have someone so great to spend the rest of your life with! Something WILL go wrong-who cares? If you’re there and Ryan is there and you are Mr & Mrs…who cares if the wrong cake topper gets delivered? But at the end of the day…just enjoy, it is the longest day ever from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed, but it will be the quickest damn day of your life and you’ll wish it could last forever.
    Whew that was kind of long-congrats & ENJOY ๐Ÿ™‚


  4. Lyndsay says

    I have really enjoyed reading your blog the past few months; it always puts a smile on my face! Today’s post was no different – I got engaged a few months ago and this post (and all the comments) have been really awesome to read. It’s great to hear your heartfelt sentiments about this big day and I wish you and Ryan all the best!!

    P.S. Can’t wait to see pictures!


  5. says

    Hi ๐Ÿ™‚ Not sure I’ve ever commented before but I had to on this one! I just got married this summer and one of the best things I did was to make time during the night to just walk away with my new husband for a few minutes to look each other in the eye, kiss and say “We’re married”! Make it a point to find each other and just be present in between all the celebrating with friends and family. It worked for us!


  6. Jessica says

    what i love so much about this post is that it reminds me of a journal entry i once made, that just makes you stop and think how amazing your life is at the moment and how blessed you are.
    congrats on your upcoming big day and i hope it is as memorable as you hope. you deserve it!


  7. Orla says

    I got married in may, and as hard as I tried to slow down and enjoy the day, it was over before I knew it! I’m kind of jealous you, because it really was the greatest day of my life and I’d do *anything* to relive it again!

    People seem to have covered off all the good advice but here’s my one regret: we didn’t hire a videographer. The day was such a blur that I really wish I had a video of the ceremony now. On the day I was so nervous about forgetting my vows that I barely remember anything that he or any of our speakers said about us!! And I cried all the way up the aisle and look like a total doof in all those photos, so hold it together if you can!


  8. Marie-Sophie says

    I got all teary reading your post and then teary-eyed AGAIn when reading all the comments ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Such a weird but very wonderful feeling to see someone you kind of follow on a regular basis take such a big step in life on the other side of the world – gives me goosebumps just thinking about it and I am just really excited for the two of you!!

    I had two marriages of very close friends this year and I must say although both were wonderful and very unique, one couple tried to be all “mature” and do and say things that they thought people were expecting from them … which wasn’t bad or anything but I felt that the other couple’s wedding was a lot more sincere.
    It was just THEM, it was their day, everything they had planned, everything they did on that day had its unique stamp (without them trying too hard!); the most beautiful moments when you would look at them, having lots of little moments together, soaking things in throughout the WHOLE day!!

    So yeah, it may sound a bit weird but just have YOUR special day, soak it all in, don’t think “we should do this now” or “people expect us to do this” – no, everyone just loves to be part of your day and seeing the two of you happy is the biggest thing for everyone ๐Ÿ™‚

    OH – and enjoy the moments BEFORE your wedding day … just as great!


  9. Nicole says

    Hi Julie,
    First of all, I love your blog! A must read for me every day!

    One thing that my husband and I did on our wedding day (that I am extremely glad we did); we walked by every table during our reception and spoke with all the guests. We did this during dinner, I didn’t care if my food was cold by the time I got back to the head table! It allowed us to say hello to everyone that graced us with their presence on the best day of our lives! I knew the night would be a huge blur and I wouldn’t have enough time to speak with everyone there so this allowed us the chance to do that. I felt the reception line when we were greeting the guests as they came into the banquet hall was too rushed.

    We also made sure once the party and dancing began, that we moved from group to group, that way we got to dance with EVERYONE! Then at the end of the evening, my husband and I stood up on chairs while the DJ played our favourite song and we sang at the top of our lungs while our family and friends danced around us; a moment we will never forget. The day will be over before you know it, make sure you take in as much as you can; stop, look around and absorb as much as you can!

    July 18 was our first anniversary, and itโ€™s still hard to believe after all the planning and stress leading up to the wedding and itโ€™s all over in a flash! I would do it all over again (of course with the same guy) ;). I hope your day is everything you hope it will be! Congratulations!!


    -from Canada


  10. Vanessa says

    How cute!
    You hit the nail on the head when you said no matter what the day will be perfect because of the reason you’re getting married. Everything can go wrong but it will be perfect
    Just remember that and you’ve got it!


  11. BrendaBettina says

    My wedding is 6days away!! This post is so great to re-read before my big day, it had really helped to put things in perspective and has made me even more excited ๐Ÿ™‚ Yah!!


  12. Alexandra says

    I’m getting married in less than two weeks, and I’ve been looking for inspiration about how to make our wedding more about our marriage than our wedding day. I’ve gotten so sick of pinterest and the wedding shows while planning my wedding because for me, this day is so much more than all the material things. People keep asking me if I’m nervous or freaking out because the day is getting so close. I can honestly say that I am not! I couldn’t be happier to finally be my best friend’s wife and to celebrate our love with our family and friends. Thank you for being one of the few places that I could find that spirit and inspiration!



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