(22 weeks pregnant and holding a 22-month-old Ryder)
It wasn’t until I received a comment from one of you a few weeks ago requesting a pregnancy update that I realized it had been quite a while since I shared my last one. This is actually only my third pregnancy-related blog post for baby #3 so there’s not much to catch up on if you haven’t been regularly checking PBF and are curious about how things are going so far.
Pregnancy Update: 27 Weeks with Baby #3
(24 weeks pregnant)
I’m officially 27 weeks pregnant today and it’s kind of blowing my mind for a myriad of reasons. First, I tend to live in a weird protective place for a long time in pregnancy where my anxiety is high so when I look down and see a big belly or feel baby moving, it is almost surreal in an odd way. Second, when I let myself truly believe we will have a third child in our arms in a few months, it’s something I can hardly wrap my head around. Another baby!? A sibling for Chase and Ryder? Another family member to get to know and love? It’s awesome and I’m so, so incredibly excited to meet our little baby soon.
The first trimester of this pregnancy crawled by for the first couple of months for a number of reasons but despite the fact that most of my second trimester has been spent in quarantine, it’s flying. I joke with Ryan that I went into quarantine sporting that ‘thick, is she pregnant?’ waistline and will be emerging with a big ol’ baby bump! There’s definitely no questioning whether or not there’s a baby in my belly right now and I’m counting my blessings over and over again.
Pregnancy and the Pandemic
I’ve had a few people ask how the pandemic is affecting my pregnancy and I must admit I feel like I ended up in a bit of a “pregnancy sweet spot” when everything seemed to hit the United States. I was out of my first trimester and, therefore, out of the phase of my pregnancy when I went in for bi-weekly appointments (due to our history) and I was a few weeks into my second trimester. I am hoping and praying everything will be better by September when I am due to deliver but we will obviously follow all of the rules and precautions if a “second wave” hits our country.
I had an appointment with maternal and fetal medicine at 18 weeks which went well and another in-person appointment at 24 weeks and Ryan was not allowed to attend either. I was okay with this because, to be 100 percent honest, Ryan and I are both a bit of an emotional mess during prenatal appointments. It’s almost easier for me to be alone and keep my thoughts centered on prayer during my appointments which I know sounds crazy but it’s true. That being said, I feel deeply for the expectant mothers who may be experiencing their first pregnancy or a pregnancy after a loss who truly feel like they need support from a loved one and those who have delivered babies within the past few months and arrived home with a newborn without the ability to receive any help from family and friends. I also think about the women who have received devastating news during prenatal appointments when they’re all alone. It breaks my heart to think about and keeps my perspective in line because I know I’m lucky to be 27 weeks into a healthy pregnancy, especially during a crazy time. Gratitude always, always.
Chase and Ryder and the Baby
(25 weeks pregnant)
One of my very favorite aspects of this pregnancy has been sharing it with our boys. Chase is 4.5 years old and it’s such a fun age because he totally gets the fact that Mom is pregnant and loves talking about the baby, thinking of names (Pepperoni is one of his latest gems) and hearing stories about when he was a baby in my belly. (He thinks the fact that he often had hiccups at night and kept me awake when he was in my belly is hilarious.) He seems less sure about the sex of our baby this time — when Ryder was in my belly he was ADAMANT that Ryder was a boy and would get angry if we said it could be a girl — but he thinks it’s a girl and said he’s hoping for a sister. When we remind him it could very well be a boy, he’s excited about a brother as well and said he wants “another Ryder.”
As for Ryder and the baby, he is almost two years old and definitely doesn’t understand the fact that he’s about to have a little brother or sister but he understands enough to say “baby” when we point at my belly. He’s also baby-obsessed in the fact that he thinks every animal is a baby animal (if we see a dolphin in a book, it’s automatically a “baby dolphin”) and it makes us smile to hear the word “baby” coming out of his mouth so often. It’s crazy for me to think that in a few short months Ryder won’t be the littlest member of our family any more because he still very much feels like my baby boy!
Symptoms + Physical Changes
During my last maternal and fetal medicine appointment, I learned that I have an anterior placenta (I also had this with Chase) and my doctor reminded me that it might make it a little hard to feel baby movement early on but thankfully I recognized the familiar fluttering around 20(ish) weeks and cannot get enough of those sweet baby movements. They’re still not dramatic and I’ve only seen them externally three times but they’re happening every day now and it’s just the best. I cannot wait for the big baby rolls in my belly when Ryan, Chase and Ryder will be able to see and feel our little one move in my belly.
(27 weeks pregnant)
As far as physical changes are concerned, I haven’t been weighed since my 24-week appointment and I was up 20+ pounds. I’m softer all over, cellulite is real and, like my previous pregnancies, I feel like I’m pregnant in my arms, hips, legs and butt, too. Ha! I’m also experiencing semi-regular cramping in my feet and calves and some occasional insomnia. I never have trouble falling asleep at night (on the contrary, I feel like I could pass out at 8 p.m. every night), but when I wake up around 3 a.m., I feel a sense of dread course through my body because something about that 3 a.m. time seems to bring about insomnia and I’ll be up for several hours. It’s not fun but it’s also not as bad as the insomnia I experienced in my second pregnancy, though that didn’t kick in until my third trimester.
I’ve also randomly had some lower back pain creep in and it almost feels like I tweaked it and dissipates after a day or two. It’s a little odd but nothing too painful and no where near what I experienced when I went through sacroiliac pain during my pregnancy with Chase. That was BRUTAL.
Now that I’m at the tail end of my second trimester, my aversions have subsided a great deal. The thought of BBQ made me want to gag for months and then a week ago, all I wanted to eat was BBQ ribs. Go figure! The thought of most tomato-based soups is still very unappealing to me (especially tortilla soup) and I cannot stand the smell of the boys’ chicken nuggets when we heat them up in the microwave or toaster oven. Ooph.
As far as cravings are concerned, give me ALL the fruit all the time! Mango, watermelon, pineapple, berries, grapes, oranges… I want it all! Also, randomly, I am loving cold and crispy raw bell peppers. Thankfully the boys share my love for bell peppers (red, orange and yellow versus green) so I try to have some slices cut up in the fridge so we have a healthy snack option available at all times.
Oh and before you think I’m the epitome of a healthy pregnancy and sitting over here snacking on fruits and veggies all day long, two of my strongest cravings are chocolate and ice cream. Ever since Ryan gave me an ice cream maker for my birthday, I’ve been an ice cream making + ice cream eating machine. I also feel like I need (no, really, need) chocolate every day so I almost always have dark chocolate on hand to satisfy this daily craving.
Other random things that almost always appeal to me: Sandwiches (especially French dip sandwiches), pizza (Alino’s is the BEST), eggs, pickles, vinegary slaws, salads if I don’t have to make them myself (#lazy), pasta, mocktails made with coconut water or some kind of juice + sparkling water, oatmeal, baked goods, yogurt, lemon desserts and pastries.
Since gym workouts are out right now due to the pandemic, I’ve been working out at home for months and it’s going fairly well. I really, really miss Burn Boot Camp and I miss the YMCA and childcare (a lovely 45-minute mid-morning break from kid chaos for this mama!) but I’m listening to my body and working out four(ish) days a week. I am admittedly often lacking in motivation during my home workouts but keeping my focus on movement outside with the boys (walks are the best!) and strength training in our garage has been key for me.
In case you’d like to see a more specific glimpse into what my workouts look like right now, here are two posts that highlight a full week of my workouts:
Any Baby-Related Purchases?
I made a batch of my DIY organic belly butter but other than the ingredients I needed for that, I haven’t purchased anything baby or pregnancy-related outside of prenatal vitamins. I switched to MegaFood prenatals before I got pregnant and even though they’re huge and not the most pleasant to swallow, I’ve been really happy with them. (I order mine through Thrive Market.)
I would like to buy some kind of a replacement contraption for our Rock ‘n’ Play since it was recalled. We used it a lot with Chase and Ryder for downstairs supervised daytime snoozing but now that we’ve learned more and know it’s a big no-no all around, I’m in the market for something else we might be able to use to put our little one down that might help lull them to sleep for daytime naps when they’re a newborn. Any recommendations?
- Lululemon Align Leggings: I bought three pairs when I was pregnant with Ryder and they’re my absolute favorite. I wear them almost daily. So comfy and my pre-pregnancy size works throughout pregnancy, postpartum and beyond! They’re the closest thing to feeling like you’re wearing nothing.
- V-Neck Seamless Bralettes: These bralettes were a Things I’m Loving Friday feature months ago. They’re the BEST and I truly cannot remember the last time I wore a “real” bra. While I am rather small chested, during pregnancy and nursing my breasts tend to grow quite a bit and this bralette has been the best for every stage so far! I love the deep v-neck, the level of padding (which is also removable if you prefer) and the seamless design because it’s honestly comfortable enough to sleep in which I know will come in handy when I begin breastfeeding.
- Quease Ease: This was a pregnancy discovery when I was pregnant with Chase and has proven to be a favorite of mine every time. It’s an aromatic inhaler made with essential oils that somehow help curb nausea. Though this has been my easiest pregnancy in terms of nausea, it’s still something I carry around in my bag with me just in case a bout of nausea creeps up, as it truly makes a difference for me.
- MegaFood Prenatal Vitamins: I mentioned these above and they’ve been my go-to prenatal throughout this pregnancy.
- Diced Candied Ginger: These diced ginger cubes are my favorite! The size is perfect and the ginger is perfectly sweet and a little spicy.
Boy or Girl Intuition?
Ah! It’s so hard to know! I feel like I cannot trust the fact that this pregnancy feels different than my previous two pregnancies because ALL of my pregnancies have felt so different. Toward the end of my pregnancy with Ryder, I began to really have a strong feeling that he was a boy so I’m waiting for that feeling to hit me again.
So far, I’m feeling rather clueless but if I had to say I’m leaning one way, I’d say I’m leaning toward believing this little one might be a baby girl. My reasoning is pretty much based on the fact that this pregnancy has been noticeably easier for me than prior pregnancies from a nausea perspective though I feel like I’m carrying this one similarly to the way I carried Ryder which is noticeably higher than the way I carried Chase who felt rather low.
I’ve also had two vivid dreams about this one being a girl, although one centered around our doctor accidentally revealing our baby’s sex before the birth and I was so, so upset that the surprise was ruined! Clearly I am ALL IN on being surprised and love, love, love not knowing the sex of this baby!
We’re pretty much in the exact same position we were when I last updated you guys about baby name ideas… sooo basically we’re clueless! Ha! Coming up with a third boy name we love is admittedly much harder than brainstorming girl names we love at this point so I worry that if this one ends up being a boy he will be nameless in the hospital for a couple of days like Ryder was after he was born!
We haven’t chatted too much about a baby girl name to be honest but I think that’s because we still like the same girl names we loved during my pregnancy with Ryder. (Also, is it just me or are baby girl names a million times easier to come up with than baby boy names? There are just so many beautiful girl names out there!) Sooo please help!! We’re open to name suggestions, especially for a boy! We like simple, easy to say, easy to spell names for a boy. Some boy names we’ve entertained include Luke, Mac (I love this one because it was my grandfather’s nickname but don’t like the way it flows with our last name… I just envision “McFagan” versus Mac Fagan), Hayes, Reed and Jax … but none of them feel quite like “the one” if we have a little boy.
Also, in my previous post, I mentioned a boy name I brought up to Ryan that I loved that he liked, too, but I think that name may be off the table. We still like it but something funny happened that kind of ruined the name for me. Ryan had a phone call the other day from a random number and when he hung up and I asked who it was, he said, “Jake.” I immediately said, “Jake? From State Farm?” and we started cracking up. Now whenever we talk about the name Jake, I think of the State Farm commercial! Haha! It’s not off the table, but it’s not exactly the front-runner it once was either.
(26 weeks pregnant — this is the closest I have to a belly pic from last week!)
When I was 18 weeks pregnant, some crazy things happened at my doctor’s office and the entire office closed. Yep, like completely closed down and patients were told to find alternate care. It was a M-E-S-S and not a decision made by the doctors whom so many of us in the Charlotte and Lake Norman area adore. I was able to speak with one of the doctors who told me they were working to join a new practice quickly and thankfully after a little over a month this happened and so now I am back with the same group of doctors I’ve seen through all of my pregnancies, including the one amazing doctor I began seeing almost exclusively after our losses. This means I’ll be able to deliver at the same hospital where Chase and Ryder were born which makes me happy!
As for my actual birth plan, it’s pretty much identical to the plan I had with Chase and Ryder: Labor at home until my contractions get close enough together to go to the hospital and then get that lovely little epidural ASAP.
And I think that catches us up! I am hoping to share pregnancy recaps a little more regularly now — I’m thinking every 3 weeks or so? — because I’m already feeling a little sad I don’t have more of this pregnancy documented for the sake of my personal memories, so hopefully it won’t be too long before I check in again.
As always, thank you for following my life, my family and our journey to baby #3. I appreciate you guys more than you know.
Loved the update, Julie. Excited for you and your sweet family! Super random, but I’ve been reading your blog for a long time and I remember you talking about an oatmeal cookie ice-cream from Ben & Jerry’s that you really loved. I snagged a pint of “Oat of this World” from Publix this weekend. Not sure if it’s the same ice-cream you were referring to, but I thought I’d share from one ice-cream lover to another. 🙂
Oh yes!! It’s so good! The one that was my all time fav was Oatmeal Cookie Chunk by Ben & Jerry’s and they retired it several years ago — still haven’t found anything that quite lives up to it!
I love reading about your pregnancy journey… thank for you for sharing and always being so mindful and open! We just had a little girl last month (Molly!) and loved the boy names of Grant, Graham, Glenn, Jack, and recently I heard Collins and liked that too. Have a great week to you and your family 🙂
Molly was almost my niece’s name! Love that one!! And Grant actually recently came up in a discussion when my parents were in town (my mom mentioned it) and we all liked it!
Molly is so cute! And Chase, Ryder, and Grant is adorable!
My son is named Graham so I’m biased but I love it! People know it’s a name but it’s not super common. And my 3 yo daughter calls him Graham cracker which is hilarious 😉
You are so sweet to acknowledge mothers who may not be experiencing the positive time you are, you have such a beautiful heart.
My husband and I had brainstormed many names for our future children, but have since decided to foster + adopt so we won’t get to name our own babies. I’m hoping one of our favorite names may appeal to you! For boys we liked: Landon, Camden, Parker, Addison, Carter, Micah and Milo. Girls were a bit harder but we loved the name Luna. Scarlett is another beautiful name that seems to be classic!
I stumbled across your blog when I was 15 weeks pregnant with my first and was in that awkward “I look thick, not pregnant” stage. I had searched for a site with weekly baby bump photos to compare myself to in order to make sure I looked normal. I luckily found your blog and have been an avid follower ever since (my son is now 15 months). I think that you are so authentic and I have gained lots of great tips and ideas from your posts. I wish you the best in your third trimester as you get ready to welcome your next child!
Aw Sam this comment made me smile!! Thank you!! So glad you found me!
Caleb, Rhett or Gunner are names I like
My two sons are Owen and Connor ?? Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy! You look amazing!
Our son is Cael and some other names we liked for boys were Cohen, Collins, Lincoln, Holden, Jude, Porter, Parker, Nolan, Cullen and Callan. I also liked Calvin so, so much and thought it went so perfectly with our last name, and then realized that it sounded so “right” because my husband has a cousin named Calvin Conley. 🙂 Oops! We definitely didn’t use that name after I remembered that. But it was a favorite for a brief while until I realized it had been taken 25 years prior! LOL!
I have three boys who are 8,6 and almost 4. Their names are Drake, Grady and Brody. We wanted simple and strong names. All their middle names are come from family names.
We struggled with boy names, too! We ended up choosing Deacon. ?
We have 4 kiddos. 2 boys – Rogen and Rhett and 2 girls- Reese and Maeda (May-da).
Other name front runners:
Boy- Ellis, Emerson, Linden & Waylon
Girl- Sloane, Etta, Isla, Michaela (Mickey for short).
Running through baby names is a favorite hobby of mine. Even though our family is complete, I can’t help myself. 🙂
So happy your pregnancy is going so well and always happy to feel your gratefulness. You always are so respectful of the fact that others may be experiencing loss or infertility issues and your readers truly appreciate that.
Our son is named Cameron but we have always called him Cam. I still love his name 16 years later and it was always nice that he has always been the only Cam in his school.
Can’t wait to continue to follow along with this pregnancy.
I’d like to nominate “Kix” for a boy
Our boy finalist names were Charlie, Jacob, and Aaron, and our girl finalists were Zoe and Hannah. Good luck!
I 100% agree that boy names are so much harder! I have son and a daughter, and when we were expecting our second, we were both convinced it was another girl. We were shocked to find out we were having a boy and never found that name that really popped for us. We eventually narrowed it down to two but didn’t make a final decision until after he was born and the hospital basically said if you don’t give us a name today, you’re not leaving with a birth certificate!
Ha! That’s exactly what happened with Ryder! They put the pressure on to have his name selected FAST and it still took us 48 hours!
Congrats! So happy to hear you are expecting again. I also had two miscarriages between my first-born and my second-born, and found comfort in your posts on the topic. I have been following your blog for the past few years and love it (thank you for writing!!), but don’t often comment.
We actually find boy names easier than girl names! However, we’re a bilingual household and one of our name requirements is easy to pronounce in both French and English, which eliminates a lot of lovely girl names. We have a Dominic (can be shortened to Dom or Nic), and we considered Joseph, Jonathan, Jeremy, and Maxime (family member’s name) for our second, but had a girl in the end.
Re: rock and play, we have a Fisherprice 2 in 1 soothe’n play glider. Love it as it’s lightweight and easy to move from one room to another. There’s a removable rocking chair and a base that makes the chair glide and plays music and white noise. If space weren’t limited, I would have maybe chosen the Fisherprice cradle’n swing, which had great reviews (but big, not portable). Graco also sells a soothing system glider that comes with a bassinet…so safe sleep in a glider, way cheaper than a Snoo, but it wasn’t available online in April during peak covid disruptions, so I only briefly looked into it.
I totally think you could name the third Ryan… Ryan junior for the boy, or Ryan as a girls name. You’re gonna Be an incredible mom to all three kids no matter the name!
I just had baby number two three weeks ago and we’re doing the mamaroo (borrowed from a friend) and a travel bassinet (from fb marketplace pre covid) for daytime naps. I do miss the rock n play though.
Hi Julie! Just wanted to say I’m so excited for you and your sweet family. I’m a long time reader and actually just had my third baby as well. I felt a lot of anxiety throughout my pregnancy, especially toward the end since he was born in the midst of the pandemic. Like you, I found it helped to just focus on gratefulness; I was so relieved that my husband was able to be with me for the birth that I didn’t bat an eye at all the other concessions, like wearing a mask during labor.
Anyway, just sending good vibes and wishing you well in the third trimester! We have three boys, named Marshall, Declan, and Callum (nickname Cal). All are very uncommon, at least in the US! For a girl we liked Emery. 🙂
I’ve been following your blog since the time when you and Ryan were dating, and now you are having the third kid! I am so happy for you. You’ve been so inspiring and making me cheerful everyday even during this difficult time.
This is so kind of you to say! Thank you, Pat! I am so grateful to you for reading for so long!
My son’s name is Reed and I just love the name. It’s different, but not strange. Also, he was the only Reed in his whole school the entire 12 years! I would love for you to use that name. 🙂 Hope all goes well!
Catherine Guidry says
It’s been a while since I read the blog (sorry!) but this post popped up first and I’m pretty sure we have the same due date! At least I was also 27 weeks on 6/9. And this is my third as well! We are having a girl and big sis and big bro are pumped. Happy third trimester!
Also, we have a Lucy and a James, but my next favorite boy name is Cole and we are naming this baby Audrey. ❤️
We just had our first boy in March and couldn’t agree more – boys names are so much harder than girls!! Our little guy is Noah Cash. We also like short easy names! We were floating some of the ones you mentioned too!
I haven’t had time to look through the comments, so sorry if these products have already been mentioned… but in terms of something to replace the rock & play I have two suggestions, both of which were CRUCIAL for me! First, while they’re small enough for bassinet, I highly recommend the Graco DuoGlider. It’s a swing that lays all the way down to a bassinet. We used this thing a TON when our kid was 2-4 months. For more sitting/general relaxation (and let’s be honest.. poop help!) we love the Fisher-Price Infant-to-Toddler Rocker. Our kid is 9 months now and we still use it every single day. Congrats, and good luck!
I agree boy names are so much harder than girl names! A boy name suggestion is my son’s name Luca! I also really like Jack!
If you’re looking for a bassinet, you may want to consider the Snoo! I know, I know — super expensive. But, you can rent, or look for one secondhand (we got one for $400 which was the same price as getting a bassinet + swing). It’s been so helpful when we just need to help our girl sleep, and at 14 weeks she sleeps 9-10 hours most nights! It’s also SUPER safe, which helped calm my anxious mama heart.
Ok I think we are kindred spirits with boy names! My 5 year-old is Ryder, my 3 year-old is Jace, and in January we had our third baby boy and named him Reid Mac! And to top it off, Mac was my husbands grandfathers nickname! WHAT?!
No way!!! Haha! Love this! And we LOVE the name Jace! We actually talked seriously about that one before we selected Chase because we loved both of them so much!
Long time reader here! Congrats on baby #3! I’m 25 weeks pregnant with our first (girl!), and some names we’ve entertained along the way have been: Juliana, Lucia, Alina , and Iris for a girl and Lucas, Matthias, and August for a boy. Right now it’s looking like Juliana Lucia (first and middle).
Thanks for posting! I have enjoyed your blog for a couple of years. It’s been especially fun because I’ve always been pregnant at the same time as you! I have two boys the age of Chase and Ryder and I’m in my 26th week with boy number three. Looking forward to your future updates and praying for you!
Love that our timelines are so similar! <3 Sending you best wishes for a healthy pregnancy/delivery!
I vote for Luke…my oldest son’s name is Luke Ryder. Now that I have 3 other boys, my hubby and I wish we would have saved Ryder for a first name for one of them. Don’t let the hospital pressure you to pick a name before you’re ready…you are the paying customer! A few of my kiddos didn’t have names until they were a week old 🙂
I’m a little late to this but noticed you like the name Hayes- my son’s name is Hughes and I just love it. It’s different but not weird. It was a family name for us, but I think it would work for anyone! We are expecting a baby girl at the end of August- Catherine Elizabeth. Good luck!!