In another breath, I’ve noticed that when people talk about the JOYS of motherhood, it’s often in non-specific statements like “motherhood is wonderful” without elaborating and sharing more. Sometimes I think it’s really, really good and really helpful to think about the specifics, especially on the hard days. Why is motherhood amazing? Why, at the end of the day, when my head hits the pillow and my mind and my body are completely exhausted, do I feel my heart ache with joy when I think about my children?
So today I wanted to share some of my specifics — Some of the reasons motherhood is my favorite thing in the whole word. And I’d love it if you shared some of yours, too!
Motherhood is the best because…
All of the sudden Santa is real again, Halloween is overwhelmingly awesome again and you always seem to find a little helper beside you to help you blow out your birthday candles
Holding the sweaty palm of a child feels like you’re holding onto everything that’s right in the world
When a song comes on that your child loves, they stop everything they’re doing because they just HAVE to move to the beat and it’s the perfect reminder how GOOD it feels for YOU to shake your booty and spin around and jump in the air with your tiny dance partner
Watching your child show compassion and kindness towards others feels bigger and better and more important than any accolade
Singing Disney songs at the top of your lungs in the car is not only acceptable but strongly encouraged by some very high-pitched, enthusiastic little cheerleaders in the backseat
For such a small but incredibly precious period of time, you know all you can possibly know about another person from their physical and emotional needs to seemingly trivial things like which stuffed animal is their favorite, the perfect song to sing to soothe them when they’re sad, the story they would listen to 100 times in a row, which vegetable will get thrown on the floor and which vegetable will actually make it into their mouth
You get a daily crash-course in the importance of communicating well and communicating often
There is no better sound than your child’s laughter
With a child, there’s no pretense — No means no, yes means yes, tears mean sadness, words speak truth and laughter means they’re overflowing with joy
The love for your children feels like it could actually consume you — it’s physical and emotional and vulnerable and so incredibly pure
You know that even though it feels like you’re in the thick of it every day, you’re smack-dab in the middle of living something beautiful that you will long to repeat in the future
You’re constantly in awe of the fact that you were somehow trusted to raise babies and make them kind, generous, strong, respectful, hard-working, compassionate, loving humans and it makes you take a hard look at how you are modeling this behavior for them
You get to play and experience childhood all over again
Motherhood completely shifts your priorities and makes you realize that as long as your family is happy and healthy you have everything you need to be immensely grateful
Now it’s your turn!
Motherhood is the best because…